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I am in my mid 30' s women who live in US with my hubby.We don' t have any kids due to some infertility issues.Now to pass time I did tried working full time for past years but now at home due to bad economy in US .My husband is a nice person, but i feel like he neglects me and concentrated more about him.He SPENDS MOST OF THE TIME ONLY ABOUT HIM.Here is his routine:
AS son as he gets up finishes morning routine doesn' t even bother saying \" good morning\" or seeing my face..goes directly to computer to interact with his networking business..than
-goes to office 9 am returns home at 8pm(doesn' t come for lunch even after office is just 5 min from home..reason he gives it takes time to come home better for him to pick up food from fast food restaurent).Other people praises my cooking ..I don' t know why doesn' t come?.
after coming home he goes to dance practice or sports activities returns home at 10.15 pm..watches tv ..by that time I will be already sleep.Some times in weekends he is gone with his sports activities, dance practice, network business etc...I tried talking to him so many times it ended up in arguements ..not talking for many days..finally i give up and talk.I definately know that he is not having an affair.And I know clearly that he loves me too..but some how everything he does to make him happy and nothing about doing us togeather.Sometimes for any get togeather with our frinds I go alone b' cause he will be busy with his activities and it is so embarrasing to stay in party alone..When I tell him going out for walk ( we hardly went for walk in 12 yrs of marriage) or going for shopping..he thinks it is waste of time.He thinks all his activities makes him happy , keeps him healthy and trim and he thinks I should be happy for him for doing all these activities and not setting at home drinking bear everyday & getting fat!!.I tried keeping myself busy by going to library, calling friends.But I am a normal women who seeks little bit of attention and showing from husband.AM I FEELING NORMAL???WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK i SHOULD DO??.I TRIED CONVINCING HIM SOOO MANY TIMES THAT I DON' T MIND WITH HIS ACTIVITIES BUT HE NEEDS TO GIVE SOME ATTENTION..BUT EVERYTHING IS LIKE GOING UNDER DRAIN..WHAT SHOULD I DO???
Ajay replied. Try to make him how you feel when he does all these activties. Since you don' t have any kids. You can also join GYM and Dance classes. If you don' t have a seperate car. Ask him for another car or ask him to leave his car. Try distancing yourself from him for few days and watch his reaction. Ecstasy replied. I can understand your feelings. There are mens like that...i don' t think is up to 90%. anyway...it is not that only men are responsible for any situation. In a family for each and everything both are responsible...as a woman/men let us take the responsiblity to make out life as we want...all in our hand...only thing is we should know how to make it. you said some days your hubby not even saying bye....why don' t u take a responsiblity to give a sweet kiss to him everyday before he leaves to office....try this it will make any men in this world to fall on your feet...believe me. like this there are so many things one woman/man can do to make partner happy....Cheers!! namita replied. hi,

u r not the only person in this world feeling like this. basically 90% of the men are like this. the remaining 10% of the men who are not like this well.......what can i say they are really lucky. even my hubby is like this. some times before going to office he will never say good bye. sometimes he will say and sometimes not. i told him u should say everyday , but then this conversation would end in argument. so i ahve stopeed saying. when we fight he will not talkeven for 2 to 3 months ata stretch finally i have to give up and speak.so the botttomline is we have to adjust. after some days he will see the changes and change his behaviour.men need time and don' t like it when women are pushy.