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my bf and i are gettign married in dec. now everything is fixed and he is saying we ened to think aboiut this. he is in US for past 10 months....wat should i do>>plz help me..i am emotionally very attachd to him..he too was..suddenly dont know wat happened fg replied. thank u everyone for your replies....
i cant leave him watever it is....it is difficult..he has always been a real man....i don' t know wat happened suddenly.... Isha replied. This may sound harsh but the truth is that your bf has lost interest in you. It is not good for your life to get married to such an untrustworthy guy. Do not waste your beautiful life for such a guy. The decision is yours and you have to get out of this. Do you think that marrying him by force will make your life happy? You have to show him that you do not deserve him. Marrying someone who loves you is always better than someone whom you love. Think. I was in a similar situation as you before I got married. I took a decision after a lot of thinking. And now I live a very happy and beautiful life with my H who loves me madly with two lovely kids.

Pete replied. Hi Fg,

You got the answer to your question through Another Girl.

Another Girl, superb! answer. Short and to the point.

Fg, feel good that you are not marrying this guy. What is important in life is not you loving someone, but the other person loving you. So break free friend. I know its just not easy to forget your first love. But think of it as your worst love and you will forget him soon. The best response to his suggestion on taking sometime should be. Tell him you thought about this and you feel you guys should not continue. Tell him if you would prefer to be with someone with a stable mind and not with someone who can stick to his words. Tell him you need to be with a real MAN who sticks to his words and actions. Please don' t cry nor beg him to marry you. Make him feel that you choose not to marry him. Once you have done that. Take a break and enjoy with your friends go places go bowling.

Cheers!

Pete Another Girl replied. Hi Fg,

When your bf says, \" he or we need to think about this\" it means he is not interested and has got another one.

I know it will hurt you a lot, your parents won' t like it, his parents won' t like it. But the ultimate thing is that \" if that guy marries you under your pressure or under his parents pressure, then it would finally lead to a broken marriage\" .

Also another thing, you trusted your bf, but now when he says that \" we need to think about this\" , ISN' T UR TRUST BROKEN. Do you still think that \" If you marry him, things will be the same as they were\" .

Just one thing, \" No marriage is much much much much better than a BROKEN marraige\" .

I really think that you should break this relationship and ask your parents or friends to take you on a hill station or any place of your interest. You really need a break.

Best of luck. Another Girl replied. Hi Fg,

When your bf says, \" he or we need to think about this\" it means he is not interested and has got another one.

I know it will hurt you a lot, your parents won' t like it, his parents won' t like it. But the ultimate thing is that \" if that guy marries you under your pressure or under his parents pressure, then it would finally lead to a broken marriage\" .

Also another thing, you trusted your bf, but now when he says that \" we need to think about this\" , ISN' T UR TRUST BROKEN. Do you still think that \" If you marry him, things will be the same as they were\" .

Just one thing, \" No marriage is much much much much better than a BROKEN marraige\" .

I really think that you should break this relationship and ask your parents or friends to take you on a hill station or any place of your interest. You really need a break.

Best of luck.