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Hi

I have been married for 4 years. We have a very happy son.

Since our marriage, we both are facing too many problems. There is a lot of communication gap between us. Initially we were a joint family - We both, my Brother in law and my parents in law. We all used to stay together. My Father in law is very strict and egoistic. He created a lot of probs. and there was a fight between my hubby and him in which I used to be a sandwich, though in the end I stood by my hubby.

Few months back (When my kid was 1.8 yrs), 3 of them (PIL and BIL) shifted to our old house giving all the cribbings that this place is not sufficient for all of us etc etc., I tried to convince them by saying that we can adjust, we are not having any problems and all, but they started giving more lame excuses. So, My huby and I agreed to their decision.

The situation has become worse after they leaving the house. We visit them almost every / alternate weekend. But they avoid coming to our place. The only time, thye come is when we dont need them at all. When we need them, they will give excusees.

These days, even my hubby is behaving sttrangely. He has started hiding things from me. He took a loan for his brother' s new house, which he kept a secret from me. Few days back, by mistake he spoke about it and I was shocked to knwo this as the amount is too high. He is earning well, and its a company loan which he can repay well., but what was the need to hide it from me? Our anniversary party he decided and discussed with his parents and not me!! He has totally stopped respecting me. His father does the same to his mother. No respect shown in words neither behavior. These days, my hubby has started using bad language and at times, he even says those words for me. This is really frustrating.

Early days were really good. We could understand and love each other, we - atleast I respected him. But these days, I am not getting these feelings for him at all.

I am worried and more worried for my kid.

please help. indian replied. message continued

go back to your routines after the break ..continue this for few more weeks , win him over to your side.
i will tell you that he will start telling u everything. when he tells you something that you do not like do not jump and fight over it. hear it all from him. do not react. let a day pass over later slowly give your idea over the issue.
indian replied.
start off with a holiday...go off to a beautiful resort or a distenation that your hus. likes. give him the choice. go out take your child with you. you should take a decision that you will not fight with him for these two or three days. just give him all that he needs, good food ,sex, love, etc... be a very happy family..never crib. just give the fullest.never talk abt the past days or actions or anything.