anyone knows whatz her update. please please share.

my son is acting so wierd, throwing tantrums like wild animal.time outs and all the tips of different parenting sites are not working at all.wat am i supposed to do wid him.
i am alone in US and have no help.

please can someone ask her to come online or share wid me her whereabouts.i need serious help.
please help, i am badly frustrated. sonia replied. hi ! kajal, i just read your reply. look this is the terrible two' s that everyone talks about. look teaching starts at home. if u' re hitting he' s bound to learn it from u & he' ll experiment on people in the house. don' t hit back. whenever there is a tantrum meltdown - generally kids r either hungry, sleepy or just simply tired when they have a meltdown. so u' ll have to see & keep close tabs on his behavior. then if there is a situation, distraction is the best way out till they turn 2-21/2 yrs. and change the place - go out of the room or something. believe me it helps. hitting is such an easy way out. he will listen and understand. time outs r for 2 1/2 yr and plus. don' t expect him to share till he' s 3. so toys should be shared in turns. i can say these things b' coz they helped when my daughter was small & in school too we see this behavior. i am preschool teacher. when we talk, children listen and follow but they should be able to trust u & they follow blindfoldly. depending where u r - here in the US, there r plenty of books on discipline - touchpoints by terry brazelton, dr. spock. just read & u' ll get a general idea. if your child is becoming aggressive, biting could be the next step. don' t worry & just be patient. let him cry out his anger & frustration - like the way they lie on the floor screaming etc. he' ll listen when he' s calm. my daughter was pretty active too. but boys r aggressive. hope all this helps ! good luck ! mom to akshay replied. hi, we both are sharing the same id and same name :)
i hope i culd help you. i was reading your message today and now i am worried about my son too. does this happen to all kids ?
you said that he is doing this from his first birthdate, my son will turn 1 next week that is why i asked.

i have read somewhere that toddlers throw tantrums and it is normal. i can' t help you personaly even though i am willing to help. my son is going to be 1 year next week so i am actually looking forward for tips from your replies.

hope everything becomes smooth for you.
love to ayush.
Kajal-mom to akshay. kajal replied. thanks savitha my son ayush has completed his 18th month. he is doing all that. today morning, he hit me and i had to slap him. he cried badly and then he slept. i felt very sorry and i cried too.
my husband blames me for his behaviour, he says i am not a good mother.my mother in law adds all masala to this and makes it an issue. she never helps me. my mother never faced this problem so i am in a fix. i am first time mom and ayush behaviour is worrying me all the time.

neetu, thank you. i will try all you have adviced. i hope it works.
neetu, how much time it took for your boy to come in discipline ? i will feel better if i could talk to hetal. in past, her replies to all my posts were very comforting.ayush behaviour is worrying me.
i will email you rightnow, please respond me.

sonia, thanks, my son has completed 18months.i know timeouts are not for all ages but i was willing to try all options available on internet to try whatever works on him.he is just so hard to take care of when he is after something. i wonder what he will do when he becomes kid. will he be like this later on. i am really worried.

X2, thanks, but i have checked with my ped. she says its normal. she told it is phase and will pass on but ayush has become so wild, sometimes when he hits me it really hurts. i am scared to take him to park or meet my friends.he started this eversince he was 1 year. everything was normal around us.
i feel i am incompetant mom. i can' t take care of one kid.i am badly frustrated and i don' t like hitting him but he has become wild that i can' t help losing my patience.usually i don' t get angry so soon but now it seems i need to keep a check on myself.
i cry after hitting him and i don' t know what to do.
neetu, thanks for sharing updates on hetal.i don' t know how she is taking care of her old inlaws with 2 kids. with one kids itself its tiring me.
anyone is facing same problem as mine, please reply me with your experience.i will feel better if i am not the only one facing this.
you gals are so supportive. thanks. savitha beeram replied. hi kajal. i was in same position as yours. i have been thru this. what neetu wrote is quite true. it just occured to me that my 18months old have started shouting at me because i was doing the same thing.
he use to crawl on ground, stomp his feet and scream at me. i just leave him alone and sit quietly. now things have been better after he started going to daycare. he sees other kids behaving nicely and i think that has worked for him a little bit. atleast he doesn' t throw himself to ground and demand things. but he still shouts at me in public and sometimes even when i drop him to daycare.
neetu, thanks for putting it to my notice. i realize it now that i was doing a big mistake by getting angry and shouting at him. i think that is how he learned. he was never like this before.
if you happen to say hi to hetal, please don' t forget to pass on my regards. i will mail you too.
thanks. neetu4953 replied. relax dear.i can feel what you are saying. i can' t help you much.i was in same position when my son was 1 year.
how old is your kid. if he is around 1 year or more, itz normal.

even my son had become wild when he was 1year. some of hetal' s ideas and her suggested sites from old link list(i have already posted it in dec 2006) has helped me.

about hetal, i heard last from her some ten days back and after that she hasn' t replied my email. email me at neetu4953 in yahuif you want to contact her directly. her replies on emails are alzo very slow so i can' t guarantee.
she has old inlaws to take care of and in dat samarth is teething his first set of teeth datz wot i know the latest from her last email.i don' t want to write much or else some unknown person will make it an issue.

some tips i remember from her posts which i still follow -
never hit your lil one, this is phase and will pass on.control your anger.if you continue hitting your son or shouting at him, he will learn dat and hit or shout at other kids. in one of her replies to me, she has also mentioned dat keep an eye contact and talk to child with patience and not with loud voice. he is just testing you.dis helps me all the time whenever nishit throws tantrums in malls or in public.
dats all what i recall from hetal' s post as of now. you will get some other good tips in posts of anu and replies to anu by hetal in feb 2007 board.i follow them too.
i am posting this link to hetal so dat she starts visiting ip again.
we all need her badly.
sonia replied. Hi! kajal, what is the age of the child ? Look time outs and other things have to be age appropriate. so ..... what is the age ? do let us know ! about hetal .......... no clue - with two she is busy !!! not an easy job ! i know i have two myself !! X2 replied. Can you check with your ped as to what problem could there be?

Has this behavior suddenly started?

krishnaveniprasad replied. Hi kajal.
don' t depress.ofcourse its easy to say ,but had to do.
Indeed Hetal inlaws came to us,thats why she is busy.she is unable to come to our board.
how old is he?
i hope evrything will be fine.
bye tc. kajal replied. neetu if you are reading this message, can you ask her or share wid me her details please. i hit my son today in anger az he was not listening to me. please i don' t know what to do. he is getting wild day by day.nobody comes to my mind other than hetal.please.