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i think many of you know me from my postings of the huge problem i been having with my husband and inlaws....after alll of it, after weeks of it, i think i have no more love for him.

i spoke with my dad about this, and told him, the next time i see my husband would be too soon. i dont know whether i need to give this marriage a try still, because i truly despise him and my inlaws. they have treated me horribly, have ruined a lot of things for me, or tried to, including things like telling me get an abortion, even TALKING about when they WANTED me to get an abortion, when im already 6 mths pregnant....banning me from coming home, jus saying horrific things.

all this has led me to this feeling now, which is just plain hatred...with no love. i know many of you are going to say, give ur husband a chance, you are going to have a baby together, and all that stuff, but what chance do i give a man that has no respect for the mother of his child, nor her parents.

and im really NOT into the whole, ' winning his heart' thing....i refuse to be submissive with him ever again. thats not out of stubbornness, but out of the fact i am sick and tired of being treated badly.

i dont think i can possible live in a loveless marriage. currently, at my parents house, i am happy. i DO have a empty hole in my stomach, but it seems to be getting smaller by the day. i know i must love him a tiny bit, but i dont ever think i can see him as a husband, i dont think i will be able to be a wife to him... i dont think he deserves me as a wife. Sumathi replied. Follow whatever is appealing to your heart. Sometimes we can' t reason out why do we feel so, time will tell. A time away from each other can teach your husband what he is missing. If not forget about him. It hurts me when husband and in-laws can abuse and drive away a pregnant woman. Its no point in living with such people. If you come across any good man, take your time and make a good life for you and your baby. 123 replied. cant post url.
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semi replied. Hi Chandra

I have been reading your all posting and problem you are having in your married life. I truely salute you for your courage to stand for your self respect and not taking any abusive. I fully agree with you 100% on your words you have expressed here. These kind of abusive husband and inlaws hardly change their attitude and there is no point wasting your time with this kind of horrible marriage where they have got no respect and love for you. I made a horrible mistake by hanging to my marriage for 12 yr. thinking that one day my husband will come back into his sense but his abusive nature, tatics, tamper tanturms never changed but increased day by day. Now I am in a situate where I repent every single day of my life for not ending this abusiver marriage 12 yr. back. Life is priceless and we are not suppose to loose our happiness and respect and pleasure of living our life just becasue we are stuck in abusive and bad marriages. I turely admire your strong character.
You surely deserve better than what they have treated you with. Don' t worry. You are educated and intellegent girl and will have a beatiful life ahead of you. Take care dear.
semi