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Hi all,
This is about behaviour of my son who is 12. He is misbehaving and giving back answers,dont bother to listen to me,rather wuld always fight with me ,no respect absolutly.Everything is a problem,no peace of mind.My husband is not supportive and we have some problems too.Our relation is not cordial,since iam not working he always tries to blame me for everything ,always abuse before the kids. My son is becoming wild,he has problems at school too,he teases people.He will not talk to Indians n hates them .Iam so upset,my husband gives importance tothe kid discusses everything also encourages a lot to be only with his parents n relations.H e has created akind of gredge indirectly on me and my parents/relations.Since we both have no specified behavioural rules for the kids nor my husband bothers,he knows to keep my mouthshut and fighting before kids.Trying to potray that iam useless before kids.Iam thinking to leave them cause iam blamed for everything ,no cordial relations . The home is like hell.
Pls any suggestions.........thnx hey replied. hi shanti

why don' t you try counselling? you can use the school counselling facility. also your son is only 12. so i think there is time for you to make him good. talk to him. may be his character is developed seeing his father. let him talk to you. i know you are and now you are at the edge of your patience but be a good patient listener and show a lot of love and caring to your son and talk with him everything. it is ot too late friend. try your best to be a close companion of your son. that will save him from a lot of other things. pray and be strong. life is dmading and challenging at times. don' t be scared . just find strength which is inside you. pray dear friend . your son is yours. maybe his fathers character created his behavior. so maybe he want to talk. you have to be very patient dear. if you feel like you are loosing it. hold on. because you want your kid back in every meaning. and you are his mother. you can do it.
also may i ask you something, why don' t you find at least a small job. that will help you out. i think it is not too late. YOU CAN CHANGE EVERYTHING. for that you have to start doing things in the right way. don' t think of leaving and all. your kid is yours and try your best .if you can' t seek counselling.