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Dear Friends, Just felt like sharing my story with all.
After 1 and half years of struggle I finally go positive HPT on November 25th.I was thabnking Archie because see mentioned once in my query \";HOPE U HIT SUCCESS THIS MONTH\"; and when her words came true,i was so thankful to her.

We both were jumping high in joy. My doctor asked me to come after one week for check up.. But one day before I had slight bleeding. I immediately rushed to my doctor and he told pregnancy is normal but he is finding twins.(we were so thankful to god, for giving us two when we were praying for one) Due to twins I had pressure inside and so I had bleeding and he told not to worry and to take rest. I took sick leave and was at home ,but at home I was feeling little bit loneliness but still I could manage.Thoug I was bit tensed of being alone form morning till evening I tried to adjust myself thinking of my baby. But always in my mind I was feeling like spotting and used to rush to the bath room then and then. In that fear three days passed and when everything was normal, I was bit relived because bleeding then had completely stopped .Then one day I just called my brother and then I had small fight with then and then I was just recalling it then and then. After that I went to sleep and when I got up I was shocked I had bleeding again but little. But later stoppend,but I was very scared but some how that night passed. Next day morning I didn’t have any bleeding. Then in the afternoon when I went to sleep I was just remembering the fight I had previous day with my brother and went to sleep. But again when I got up bleeding started again. I thought it might stop and took an appointment with the doctor next day morning. But at night bleeding never stopped and I lost hopes completely and next day when doctor did the scanning he told me it had aborted already and asked me to stop taking the tablets.
Dear all iam so depressed and thinking y this happening to me.
1) Also I wanted to know is it because of the fight I had with my brother because it was just small fight or is it due to some other reasons.
2) My doctor told me I can conceive immediately next month, Because my system is normal now so need to worry and no need for treatment also-IS it possible???
3) Dear friend also tell me what food I have to take in pregnancy because iam pure vegetarian.
4) Now iam losing hopes because at times for small things I take tensions if this is the case will I ever be able to conceive???

Iam still in depression just cant come out of it. Just left to god.

Thanks all
archie replied. Sudha,
Yes, I am indeed sorry to hear loss.

You expect sympathy out here and I may sound against that with what I am going to say in next two line.
Why do you get nervous about everything? Why on the face of earth you could not concentrate on your pregnancy and gave importance to fight with your brother? What is important in your life? fights or baby? Do you find any answers to these questions, if so I would be happy to hear them on right ground.

1. did you loose because of fight with brother?
tought to comment though possibility is slim. Early miscarriages are very common and you may not have been well hydrating yourself with all the un-necssary worries you had to harbor. Also it might have been not yet fully established and may have some inappropriate recombination. Many possibilities exist fight with your brother could be one of them but not necessarily be the cause.

2. Can you conceive in next cycle, absolutely possible. Because you did not carry pregnany longer, you have high chances of conception in immediate cycle. Do not avoid Folic acid tablets though.

3. Do not eat outside, do not eat salads made by others no salad dressings, only fully cooked home meal.

4. loosing hope or believing in yourself is individual and almost no one here can help you with that besides giving false hope that all will be fine. you need to develop confidence in yourself and weight what is important. Trust your fertility, your needs and ability and leave the worries to God.


Archie