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Hi all,
i have married for 2 n half yrs . it' s a love marriage after 7 yrs of relatinship.Before marriage we use to give each others cards n small gifts.my husband use to give me cards on my b' days.
After we came other country on his b' day i made card for him n baked cake for him ( as i was not earning so in another country i can only do that)but wen my b' day came he just took me out for lunch. no gift no flowers whereas on parents place they use to buy me someting my sis use to give gifts n cards n it use to be a day celebration.i felt so cold same story for valentine' s day.he says he doesn' t believe in all this.
But this time wen his mom came to live with us.he arranged cake n surprised gift.he bought diamond for her( he also bought diamond for me also earlier woh bhi once in 2 yrs mujhe dilwaye).those days she was trying to make my life hell n he knows that.so felt so bad i can' t see his care for her.still i makes my day bad.
on his second b' day i bought watch frm india n baked cake for him n cooked special.n on my second b' day he send some flowers through his as i was not here.on my anniversary same stories.
on second anniversary he bought flower n after few days he celebrated his mom' s b' day.
this time i don' t feel like doing anything as lift his hand on me becoz of his mom issuse.
besides occasions he is very caring he does everything which no one usually do..he very romantic..
wat sud i do?
Pt. NK Sharma replied. It seems you are very much sentimental.please use your experience of practical life and be practicle.you just imagine that your son will also do the same thing for you in future in presence of your Daughter in law and same thing can happen with her.so ypu are advised to be practicle and take these things easy. Namita replied. u r just streching the issue ... infact there is no prob. atall .... some people dnt believe in giving gifts n all .... enjoy the way he wants to celebrate, do wht u want to do on his bday but dnt expect same on urs ... keep a open mind and be ready to celebrate ur bday acc. to wht he says or does otherwise u can plan ur bday as u want and aks him to participate ... i m sure he will

abt. his mother, i dnt have words to say ... good taht atleast she dnt stay with u ... bt u should point out tht whn he said he dnt like giving gifts then how come he bought diamonds for mother .. make sure to tell him that u r not jeaoulous or have bad feeling for his mother but was just nervous abt his behaviour

dnt nag ... this is normal ... i also like flowers, i have mentioned this to my hubby but even after 2 1/2 yrs of marriage and 2 years of dating i have only recieved once one rose .... but i have given him .... dnt expect bt make him understand ... and learn to njoy his way of celebrating things

feeling bad will only affect ur realtionship ... it takes years to build up realtionship but few moments to break it ... so b careful dnt complain on such things