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Hi,
I' ve been for 5 years. Me and my husband are totally opposite of each other. We have one daugher together. The problem is communication between us. He hardly talk, we don' t communicate at all. He does care about me a lot but my marraige is getting boring and boring every day. He is a good husband, he respects my parents and my family. He always supports me. Sometimes, I feel like I can' t have everything because I married a pretty decent guy but then there is no life in my marital relationship. It' s just a routine. I want to know is this normal or am I getting paranoid. Thanks Pt. N k Shasrma replied. I think it is not so big problem,because as time go through in married life it often happens.our expectations remain same when we were alone but in married life after born of one child the view changes.please change your priority you definately will be happy.You are advised to pray lord GANESHA every-day . Dd replied. Hi,
Namita is right. even in my case i am very talkative 7 my dh is not its very normal. i always have so much to talk to him about and i am happy as long as he does not mind listing to me all the time. he is a good listner. sometimes i tell him why don' t you talk but he says that what should i talk he does not understand. Sometime he talks about his day or if i strat a topic and he has something to say about it he will say it. so mostly what we do when he gets bored with my talking is we sit cuddling eachother & watch dvd' s. sometimes i read comic stories in gujarati for him bcs he likes it.
so find out ways to make your life more intresting depending on your situation. As u yourself excepting that he is decent guys & supports u always so u try to be his best friend. Namita replied. not every men are chatter box, thats wht they say when we talk :) .... wht i have noticed is men who speaks lot(specially with other ladies) are flirt type rather then who speaks less

my husband also dnt talk much compared to me ... he discusses his daily chores and wht happened in office, each n every thing ...bt i have lots of things to discuss with him

so at times even i tell him to talk ... if ur husband dnt intitate in talking, or when u r out he dnt speak .. then u speak, ask his view on some things ... like movie, current affairs anything .... if u are very close with him, u can also discuss abt. the things wht u read on this board

it is not necessary that he should have topics to talk to u .... i think men talk less than women ... as my husabnd talks and discuss with me everything whtever happened in the day .. the same goes with me, so i also discuss with him abt. the things read on this board, at times also takes his view .... u can ask for his suggetions on the work u do .... as him to buy stuffs for baby from the way back home .. tht makes us feel good sweety replied. the truth is men don' t know what women want, so get it yourself. You want to go watch a movie, drop off the baby with your parents for the evening and go out. YOU have to make life intersting, the more you expect something, the sorrier you' ll feel. Go out together. To the movies, restaurants or take the baby to the park together. You show interst and slowly he will start showing some too.

Hey remember opposites attract, he won' t get mad at you for spcing things up, who knows he may just get happy.

Good luck and don' t stress.