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Hi all first ofall my problem is not related to mil sil of family ,i live in USA with my kid and husband .the problem is my social life .
I am in usa since 3 years .and have a decent job .
I dont know why i am not able to make any good friends here .I dont know whether other women living here in usa feel the same .Most of the weekends we do nothing we just spend time with each other .if we think of inviting some one for dinner then believe me it is difficult to even make a list .as there is hardly any one in the list .I am not the arguing kind ,adjust easily every where ,but i am also not very homely kind ,so i dont know whether this is the problem .
I invited some friends one time and every one ditched back making some excuses may be true .but I doont really know how people make friuends here .do u take the phone number and addres of person you meet first time in some socila gathering ,then call them for dinner with husband ,do u make friends when you meet some one in mall how ?i have een people here have friends and believe me till i was in colege i had lots lot sof friends .I am from north and try to avoid friendship of south indians as i had some friends but felt very bad when at social gatherings of 3-4 hours i could not even understand what they were speaking ..as if i just went for food there .
My hubby is fine as he has his activites and sports to keep him busy bu i feel very very isolated .
is it just some problem with me of every one is like this .
Please tell me incidences of how you mad friends in a new country ,i may learn somthing .

Namita replied. y dnt u join ur husband in his activities .. may b the club he goes or some game

spending a good time or lesuire time is not necessary with friends ... it can also b with ur one self ...

wht abt co-workers? u can find some indians with u or ur childs friends parents and keep touch with them ...call ur co-workers, if they are good and close to u for lunch, brunch or for outing together

best is to enjoy one' s own company, thats wht i feel .. being social is also important but it should not harm u emotionally as wht is happening to u Friend1 replied. I am North Indian from MI, if you are from same place we can be friends. sneha replied. yes i am friend and share a good relation with coworkers ,but I try not to discuss too much of personal life with them ,neither do they as it some how effects your professional life ....I mean there should be some professionalism and office culture isnt it .But yes i go out for lunch and is invited to allmost all the office parties which is good but again professional. Srey replied. And what about your co-workers? They are your friends, right?

You don' t have to invite them to your house. As long as you are talking to them, it' s good enough.

friend replied. Which part of USA do u live?