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i am 25 and my bf(going to get married this tear with parents approval) is 31. he has this feeling that he cannot trust me in the sense that i have stray feelings.because i am extrememy pretty and his looks are above avg only. feeling of insecurity is there for him.whereas i have not done or said anything that makes him feel so.its just his floating thought.that comes up once in a month.he says till our marriage he may keep having such thoughts.ofcourse he is very liberal with me talking to guys etc but does not like too many outings though.i too never go out with guys only taalk in offcie and some times over the phnone.he knows my friends too as we both are in the same office. is his feeling natural?can u ppl help me figure out wat he may b thinking. thank you in advance.
stranger replied. Hi,

Did he himself tell you that he does not trust you because you are extreamly pretty or so? Just discuss the fact with him more openly.

Trust is the basis of marriage. Incase he does no trust you wóut ur fault...he' ll never be able to trust u in future.

I have a reason for saying the above. I married a person who told me before marriage that he did not trust me. I took it lightly and said neither do I as we hardly knew each other and he was an NRI so no meetings etc, not much communication, etc.

After marriage when I joined him, he told me that he hinted me (by saying that he did not trust me) that he did not intend to marry me. I found this stupid hint as very strange. Since then, we continue an abnormal marraige life without trusting each other.

That is obvious that all men are not same, therfore I suggested u that you should speak to your bf more openly. Its better to clear things before marraige rather then staying as brother sister after marriage.

Best of luck....