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I was a pure virgin at the time of marriage.so INSERTION was PAINFUL & NEVER HAPPENED EVEN ONCE.I found him v.impatient to my pain.He never tried to discuss this issue,go to a sexologist/counsellor but tried avoiding talking of it totally wenevr i tried finding solution to it,which was strange.Meanwhile,he tried anal intercourse & was successful.We have had all physical relations so far,but no sexual intercourse EVEN ONCE.I also had some vaginal infection 20-25 days after marriage 4 which I wanted to get cured,but husband gave excuses of shortage of money as 2 much was spent on our marriage.After 2 months of repeated requests,he halfheartedly took me to a gynaecologist (2-3 visits)who cured it in almost 5 days.The vaginal infection erupted again after 1.5 months.but my husband dint take me to gynae again because of same excuses,although gynae said it' s common & all my reports R normal.Noth.is wrong wid me.Can he divorce me coz of no natural sex?My in-laws told this to all their relatives.it' s an issue in their relatives now.they all blame me.Say he may have extra marital affair in future.They want only my parents to pend on my treatments.they say i have a disease.hubby says i lack lubrication.i get pain even after applying lubricants.plz advise.I have lost self esteem.Is something wrong with me?If there are any lawyers on board,plz suggest if he can use it as a ground to divorce me? Namita replied. in which era is ur husband and IL' s living .... wht is divorse for????? .. wht case do u think he will file against u, do u think he vl say u dont get lubrication ????? God save u, wht typeof people r they ... abt. husband discussing with Il' s i can it is normal, bcoz from whever u wrote i can make out that ur husband is totally in hsi parents hands and hve always followed them .... so might have thought tht instead of doctor he can check with his parents abt. it, n they give him wierd thoughts

Abt. infection, it is normal, it happens also to unamrried girls, reasons are many ... bt also ask ur husabnd to stay clean, even this is one of the reason .... will mail more later gg replied. stop worrying about when ur husband will take u for treatment ...or who will pay for treatment ...go for the treatment firtst....i think ur husband is right...the reason for not enuf lubrication is ur not participating equaaly with him in ur making out seesion..u dont gv him response...ur not taking interest in him...obviously the bond between u n him is not strong...that is y he is discussing his personal life with his mom...who else he will go to?
u hv to work from ur side first... Srey replied. Is there something deeper than this?

I mean, why is divorce is the picture?

It could be a number of reason why sexually intercourse is delayed. Yes, Pain is probably one of them. But, you have also said that he achieved anal sex from you, right? So, that should be enough.

Did I miss sometime, because I don' t understand why he would want to divorce you.

Anyway, don' t feel bad or anything like that. Certain people recieve pleasure differently(doesn' t have to be from sexual intercourse). Honestly, as long as you and him are satisfied that really all that matters, right?