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Hi all,

We are married for 6 yrs now and live abroad. I need suggestion from you guys to how to handle my SIL. She is bossy and always wants everyone to listen whatever she says and thinks that my husband and I also should listen to her words.Since she was married she used to stay in the same place as my in-laws and my FIL used to go for months on business trips. SO, obviously my SIL is closer like first priority in my in-laws family. Also, since my husband lived abroad, my SIL nd her husband took care of my in-laws. I mean my in-laws are not that old but they also depend on my SIL for everything. Like if my MIL needs to buy some sarees or something for home she just tells my SIL to bring and she brings. I don' t like her at all. She comments on everything I do like the way I dress etc.

Now coming to my new situation, whenever we talk to anybody in India we use speaker phone so that my husband and I both can listen. My parents,in-laws,SIL knows about that. When I talk with my SIL she talks just common things like how r u , kids etc. I also ask her general questions. But when she talks with my husband she indirectly comments about how we are treating our in-laws. FOr example, yesterday when we talked with her she was saying that since u r expecting ur 2nd baby we r praying to god to give u a son so that u will know how they treat u in ur olden age etc. Also, she said that since u have a daughter , ur daughter nd son-inlaw will be with u only. She says like my husband is lsitening to whatever I say. Since we have a daughter and in future we turn our son-in-law to our side. But, my SIL she manages everything in my in-laws place.

my SIL won' t say anything when I talked to her and she says like this indirect words to my husband and she knows that I will also listen since we talk using speaker phone. Sometimes I feel like to give a reply to her words but then I will back off thinking that she is not talking to me why should I start quarrel. But I am tired her behaviour. Could u tell me what you guys will do if you are in my situation? shall I reply her back? or should I keep quite? she is doing since our marriage happend but she is doing more now than before. My husband he is very calm person and he won' t say a word back to her.



Smrity replied. Don get upset yaar. Ignore her and just be happy. Also, I think she is not commenting on her brother but she is targeting you. So as Shrey says….before your end up your conversation tell your SIL that you have some work and then hand over the phone to your husband. When she will be sure that you are not around hence not listening to the conversation, she will gradually stop commenting. Simran replied. Hi,

i suggest you to keep quite and just ignore her becoz if you said something to her your hubby will not support you in doing this...but you feel that your hubby is with you and he will support you then go ahead and deal with her...

best of luck Srey replied. I would probably just walk away.

Plus, if she calls...act like you are busy. Go do the dishes, clean the bathtub or whatever.

Just tell your husband that you are busy and to say Hi to her, that' s all. Ritika replied. Go ahead and reply back..she' ll get a dose of her own medicine and will very soon qieten down. The more you keep quiet, the more such people try to boss you.