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Hello,
What would you do??

For the LADIES in here:
When your Husband/Boyfriend/Fiancee had a bad day at work, Do you:

1) You can usually tell...so you leave him alone
2) Give him a hug and a kiss
3) Tells him to stop complaining and help you watch the kids
4) Roll your eyes at him

For the MALES in here(If any):
You Promised Your wife, Girlfriend, Fiancee that you will take her out next week. But, All of a suddent your boss ask you to come in that day would you:

1) Call in sick and take her out
2) Break the promise, but, Go out and buy her an expensive piece of jewellery
3) Leave her a message on her cell, right before you go to work
4) Ask a friend to take her out instead Srey replied. Thank You ladies for the Responses. Seeing everyone' s responses.....Here' s mines.

My DH, don' t have many bad days at work....But, when he do. He usually calls me on my cell that he is coming home early.

Depending if I have to work that day or not, I tend to comfort him with food. I' ll stop by the Bakery to pick up his Pineapple cheesecake(he don' t like sweets, but somehow this always works)

...Once I get home, a simple hug and a kiss was all that is needed to comfort him. Which always lead to him telling me about what had happened. :) Namita replied. i first analyse his mood :) .... if he is toooo frustrated then leave him after asking once or twice (angaro se dur rehna hi achcha hai warna ham bhi jal sakte hai :)), then wait for him to say or go and ask him ... otherwise i usually hug him, care him then ask him whts wrong and try to solve his prob. .... evn try to show him if he is expecting too much from other (like friend said my DH is also perfect in his work and expects the same) .... at times u hve to behave differently with different people as everyone is different :)) friend replied. My hubby generally gets bad days ..just because of his frustration.... He is talented and is little haughty .So he expect his team shd work in perfect way. like me, they fail to meet his expectations...Hmm.. so, bad days occur .
He will pour out his feelings with me...and I talk some soothening words and divert his mind on to my baby . But I have to really try Ritika' s A** kicking for him :)))
Later he repent himself for not being able to go to basics like them to explain them whats scenario ... when he realise it, I somehow talk some discouraging words to pour out ,in this way he is poor in understanding others concern too. Then he feel he is all alone, I never support. But, he never try to rectify his mistake of not to overexpect everything frm others.

I know I' m sometimes wrong! And Ritika is great being lovey to hubby all the time. But it doesnt work for me...I did in intial days...but he want me to behave decent(??,).He has some rules of how his wife shd be...He doesnt like to see me behaving shildish. I used to do all for him. But, now somehow, he is not liking me doing pampering. I am wihdrawing because I' m getting leniant .



gg replied. lol..for ritika...i hv done hugg...kissing but kicking i will try ....lol.....wll let u knwo response...
i htink ritika ...is smarteer than rest of us...she is some wher like my sil..i always compare ritika with her .. Ritika replied. When my hubby has had a bad day at work, I make him a cup of tea when he comes home..give him his favorite snack...and sit with him for a while..if he wants to talk and vent, I let him talk and murmur soothing words to him...if he doesn' t want to talk about it, I ask him a couple of times but then let it go...I try to say a few encouraging words and then divert his mind by hugging and kissing him and then saying that whoever is responsible for his worry, I' ll go kick his a* for him..that generally gets a laugh from him.. :)

Then I ask him if he wants to go for a drive or a walk...that also makes him feel better...sooner or later he' ll tell me what' s bothering him and lots of time just getting it out of his system helps him feel better...

So that' s what I do... :) neha replied. it is point 1. i usually guess so leave him alone and then after some time start to ask him about the problem....my bf is such tht he talks a lot wen he is in a bad mood :)