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Hi all,
recently my husband is invited to one of his colleague' s beacholer party and as in western culture it is comman ,there will be a stripper.I am not comfortable if he choose to go to that party. we haven' t discuss it yet but i feel this kid of party or going to strip club one form of cheating.
what is your thought! Aisha replied. Hi Priya,

I normally don' t comment on these issues, but I had to this time.

DO NOT let your husband go to these filthy ' party' . First of all, you husband should be the one to refuse to go there. I don' t understand how some of the people on this board are saying it is ' harmless' or this or that. Will you allow your father / brother/ husband / son etc. to go on the net and visit those disgusting sites??? The answer is NO, then what makes viewing it live ' harmless' .

Priya, remember what' s popular is not always right. I personally suggest that you don' t let your hubby go to the pary. this is how women are treated like an object during this party in the name of ' modern times' . Whatever happened to respecting women even if that person is not ones mother or sister.

Thanks,
Aisha raj replied. Hi dear Priya,
Cheating is more in mind than anything else.If your hubby has to go to this party to keep up his relationship with that friend,let him go by all means.Stag parties w strippers are new to our indian culture so we feel troubled by it,but look at it this way,can we control what our hubbies see, hear,or think 24/7?
Men dont find it wrong to ogle at well dressed or other women,it' s their nature-no offence meant.
you dont have to suffer silently either.
YOu could ask for a good time to talk to your hubby and voice your concerns crisply and gently without tears and drama,then he is more likely to understand your issue,it will surely help clear the air betn both of you.
On the whole,goingt o a stag party is harmless fun,dont worry.
Best of luck and I' d be glad to know how you faced it.
Raj Nams replied. I am sure u vl get different views from men & women ... all men vl feel that its ok, nothing harm and ofcourse woment will alert u abt. consequences ... as a women i feel its wrong for ur hubby to go there, i understnd wht vl b ur condition even if he thinks of going there ... but on the otherside, if we look at this from mens point of view ... then i agree with Srey, even if we put hold on our hubby' s going at such places we can never put hold on there thoughts .. i hope u r understnding me .... i feel tht let him go, evn he have right to enjoy his life with friends, bt he shud know his limitations and u shud b confident tht he will forget all that after the party and doesnt make it a habbit ... u speak to ur hubby, clear this, tell him it is just for one day and he shud know his limitations and always keep in mind responsibility towards family ...

I request men to speak on this matter .. wht do u think? Srey replied. I see it all the time. Honestly, it' s all about trust. Just a bunch of guys teasing the groom to be. IMO, it' s harmless.


What do you think is going to happened? No one is that stupid to screw the stripper, it just can' t happen. Especially, when there' s a whole bunch of guys in the building.

Relax....if it bothers you, tell him to come home at a certain time. neha replied. it is not correct for a man who is married/committed to go to such a party....tel ur huby if it is only a drinks party then its ok not otherwise