Relationships  Discussion Forum

Dear help seeker,

1. How old are you both?
2. How long have you been dating?
3. Are both families well informed about your affair and decisions?
4. How open/forward/westernized are the families you both come from?

The above are the considerations with which only one can make a suggestion or the decision. Without the above its easy to say either 1. yes, yes its very good, you both will develop more understanding about each other etc or 2. NO NO such things are very bad, our society does not approve of etc!

So come on answer the questions, lets look at your situation objectively.

narasimhan..thanks....u r right ..we r into a IT...not in the same company though...r timings r different...we get late from wrk,tht´ s y we wanted to move in to spend more time together,..and wat u say abt chennai may be right.it not aceptable there...
we shall consider this option of living close to each other and spending time either in his palce or my place without actually movng in

Dear help seeker,

It appears both of you are in the IT sector so little bit of money here and there should not be a big criterion for you.

I have a feeling, like you do not want to declare to your parents, in Chennai also if you declare to your prospective house owners " we are not married but we will live in together in your place" you would not get a decent place to rent. So my suggestion is, both of you take two different places close to one another and keep both house owners informed that you two are going to be married soon. After that divide your time between the two living places that you have. This would also give you the feasibility to allow both your parents to visit you if and when they so desire. This may of course cost you some 2 to 5 thousands Rs more every month depending on the kind of accommodation you choose. You could also have one good place to live together and another " naam ke waste" place, may even be a room in a working men/women hostel kind of.

The bottom line is : Live-together concept is yet to be so much acceptable in India in general and in Chennai in particular.

i am 24 and he is 27..we r dating since one year....yes families r aware of our affair...but we will not tell them about the live in..our families r broad minded.but such a thing no family wil acept especially midle class ststus families like ours
plz provide us suggestions