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Hi Everyone,

as a DIL i should be on top of the world today because yesturday we finalsied a rented place for ourself, saperate from Ils, & will be moving in soon & start a new life after 10yrs of our relatioship. But i don' t feel quit myself & i can not understand what' s hapenning.
I had experince of leaving with DH as just 2 of us but in diff cities as a pert of job. but this will be my first separete house in SAME CITY.
Though it could be anxity from having to start from scratch, we both r not afraid of that BCS we both have experince of doing it in new cities & more than once. But somehow we bOth r not able to accept this situation as we had never dremt of leaving paernts alone at old age. We even had selected a nice big flat to buy for all of us to stay together a month back & were trying to work on a deal. And one sunday before 15 days bcs of some fight between my elder sil-(unmarried & leaving with us) & my DH, we left house. we packed luggage in 2 hrs. & are managing in temporary arrngemnts. Though my MIL & FIL tried their very best to patch up but this time myself & DH r not ready to give in as they don' t say anything to SIL & house runs according to her rules mainly, which we r fed up of now. A deal for that flat got cancelled 2-3 days back & we rented a place yesturday to leave till we find new place to buy. Which will take time as my DH still wantS to buy big flat to accomodate everyone if need arises in future. And i am also comfertable with making small adjustments for my FIL & MIL but not for SIL Who cause so much trouble for me. Everytime she blamed me whenever she had a fight with her brother-my DH eventhough i was not in picture, but this time we couldn' t keep quite & we also lashed out at her & my MIL badly for supporting her. we both felt very bad & cried a lot but we don' t want to go back to that miserable life, so we took decision & rented a plce. I hope we r doing right thing & god guides us in future & forgive us for causing grief to my MIL & FIL.

i am new on this board & survivied ordeal of last few days reading previous massages on these board. and today finally could let my feelings out. Sorry for the long mail.
I really admire the wisdom & advise of some of the members & hey girlfriends, KEEP IT UP. mama replied. hai

i am also new to this board. this board is a great encoragement to keep life going to also know that your not alone in this world going through the same.

As you said there are a number of messages that give reply to your q?

I guess this was a long pending decision. have a great life everything will fall in its place.

Time will cure your inlaws.
best wishes


Dd replied. sorry i ment to post this massage in inlaws or joint family section & not here