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Hi all,

we r living abroad. I am pregnant with my 2nd child and parents are coming for my delivary. We r booking tickets for them and I would like to bear all there expenses like suitcases and i told them to bring some clothes for me my husband. My husband says that they have to bare all the expenses even like for our clothes and suitcases. I think its going to be too much burden for them. I mean even for suitcases its gonna cost sround 5,000 rs in India. My parents are from middle class and my father got retired recently. My husband is very suspecious when it comes to my parents. He tell me to tell my parents to bring bill receipts for all the purchases. I cant ask them that? is there any suggestion for me. I am very frustrated about this. I don' t know how to convence my husband in this regard.

Rose replied. Hey, its a really a shame that you are not able to help your parents for the trip, your husband live in a developed country and well educated, and still follows some stupid rules... but i agree with you men treat they in-laws different fron they family members, you are a working women you should also have a equal say about the money you earn and how you wish to spend it.

You can confront your husband and tell him, its a personal to you that you wish to sponser trip for your parents,i guess sometimes its right to put your foot down... because in a realsationship works only when two people dicuss the difference between them Dd replied. Its very sad to know that after getting exposure to world he is still very naroow minded & believes in very old fashioned way.
Tell him, now a days people don' t keep difference between husband' s parent & wife' s parent. it is his duty to think about your parents as his own parent also like u do.
tell him that your paerents are coming to help u not on leisure trip. even if it was liesure trip he shuold provide for it, if ha can afford to do (same as he will do for his own parents, he may not even ask u to do so)
don' t be too harsh & fight bcs it will be bad for your health & relationship. But try to be firm and make him understand your point of view. Give exaple of any couple u r friends with how they behave in this type of situation. select exmples which r in your favour.
good luck