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Dear Archie,

We have been trying since last 1yr,Still no luck.I underwent all the tests its normail.They asked for hubby's SA test n he is not willing to go.What should I do?We eat very healthy food and exercise with out fail.But still no luck.

Feel bit disappointed when I see every1 around me getting pregt so soon.

My quest is,after having sex everything comes out,what might be the reason?I have tried elevated postion with pillow down,What shd I do for not comming out?Or is it common.

Pls reply archie replied. SA analysis for some orthodox families and men can be very personal, sensitive issue and they would try to put off or delay or ignore as much they could.
However the fact remains that success off ttc lies in both parts, women and man, both contribute equally 50% and therefore it's necessary to have tests done on man as well. Tell him that there is nothing wrong to get SA tested and treated if required. There is pretty good possibility that he might not have anything wrong on his part. But he should remove such clouds appearing when you ttc.

Tell him how much you love him for who he is and any outcome of the SA will have no impact on your affection towards him rather his co-operation in this regard will grow your love and appreciation for him more than before. A sane and educated man will find nothing wrong in undergoing test as long as he craves equally to have his own child.

Oozing semen after intercourse is normal. May be you have to work on timing and avoid beddings before and after ovulation. to grab best fertile time of yours, you can opt to use OPK if you live in USA. You can relax while working with this way. Only intercourse for 2-3 days from the day you get OPK positive and see what's in store.

Tell your spouse baby is second than his love and he should perform without harboring any stress he is the man you would love for the rest of life. I think your words of support might help him get SA done or remove any anxiety,stres he might be harboring while performing. It's common that many mens don't perform well under stress and that under this scenario their sperm count is way low and of low motility, which works against ttc.

Archie kshama replied. hi,

some liquid comes out for most of us that is not a problem. convice u'r husband to get SA done. It is just one day, it won't take much time also,5 10 mins.

my good wishes with u
luv
kshama