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Hi, I am father of 2 year old twin daughters. We had to send them to day care since they were 9 months old. Now as they are growing, one of them does not settle there in the morning and weeps a lot while other surrenders and stands quitely. None of them is happy when we leave. We also feel bad then. Are the kids behaving normally or we are being rude to them. Please advice me what should I do to so that they good bye happily every morning.--Chhavi (A sad dad) Lata replied. I have a 2 year old son who goes to creche. He also had the same problem when I used to leave him in the morning. He would cry a lot and sometime just surrender....It was really bad. it went on for almost 10 months.. We had put him in the creche when he was 1 yr old. We thought may be it is separation which is causing him to cry..
then I conducted surprise surveys during day time and felt that he was not happy there. I then changed his creche.. Only after a week of changing the place, he seemed quite happy and settled in the new place.. Now, he goes happily there.. Even on holidays he expresses the desire to go there.

I suggest you figure out whether yr kids are happy in the creche during the day or not. If you fell that they are not then it is worth changing the creche as it is the question of their life afterall. Alefiya replied. Mr Kumar,
i too have a 2 yr old and i believe that it is at this age when the child becomes a bit insecure. they are exploring many avenues, learning to talk and communicate to one another.
You should try and reassure them that you too will miss them throughout the day and that you look forward to seeing them in the evening, maybe even buy them a gift and promise to spend more time once they are with you.
When you fetch them from the day care ask them how they spent their day, the answer lies somewhere within.
Good Luck
sudha replied. hi,
i understand the concern the parents have when their kids are not comfortable with the day care place.since in your case the babies are unpleasant,u should try to find out whether the place u r sending them is really worth it. try to look for a day care centre which offers lots of edu games,puzzles, crafty work etc which keeps them involved. even if the babaies are small,i believe there are definetely their own areas of interest. and most important of all are the persons who take care of them. try to find out are they trained people to take care of the kids.
all the best