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I need your advice and your viewpoints if you have been thru the same experience.
My husband and I are planning a 2 weeks trip to Europe and he wants his parents to go with us. I really dont want this and at the same time can not tell my feelings to my husband or he will get upset at me...because as a good son he wants his parents to enjoy all those things as well. I am really not open and comfortable with my MIL. Infact I try to be open with her...but she is wierd and does not like me for some reason. I dont want to spoil our much awaited trip but my hubby is very adamant to take them along.
Am I being selfish here or I dont know.
Please advice and tell me if you had to go through similar experience. My Husband is very close to his mom. We have been married for 6 and have 1 boy and my inlaws have been living with us for 4 yrs...which is reaaly painful for me..tell me what to do...I really dont want them on the trip. kir replied. Dear Shilpa,
I can understand what u feel.You cannot enjoy your trip when your accompanied with In-laws.(My husband will be walking with his mom while i end up holding the baby and the diaper bag & walking behind them like a maid)
Discuss with your hubby that you wont be comfortable with them& that you need to enjoy the trip and have pleasent memory.may be plan any short trip with your in-laws..
These days i openly talk to my hubby if i' m not comfortable.and i' m open to the results too..(whether we go or cancel the trip.) SHRUTI replied. Hi!
I am a daughter as well as daughter in law also. I understand it' s not easy to mix up and going on a family holiday with your inlaws.It' s true with every daughter in law. But when we think about our parents if our bhabhi behvaes like this and don' t like our parents then what would we feel? We will think our bhabhi(brother' s wife) is not a good human being and DIL. When it comes to our parents then we think in other way round. Whenever I do something bad with my inlaws I think of my own parents if my bhabhi does the same thing with them how would they feel.? That' s the reason I neve do anything bad with them. Trupti replied. I know, my in-laws are in India and we are in USA (4 years married now). They should be coming here pretty soon permanently(they wana come here very badly). When we visit India, my MIL comes with us everywhere to shopping etc, and I take here happily, but then during shopping she just does her shopping and so does my husband. I am the one stuck with the baby all day. Also she really really loves outing, I respect her and also buy her so much stuff from here, send money back home for them, but still I get no respect. Also my father-in-law taunts me there that I don' t cook, she doens' t let me cook there (just a helper to cut veggies etc)

I don' t understand, we try to be so nice to them, try to treat them as our parents and they take disadvantage. I told this to my hubby and he takes their side. I don' t know what will happen after they come here.

I agree with Swapna, see what happens. Try to cancel the trip

take care
Trupti Swapna replied. Having in laws on a fun trip is no fun at all. My MIL is here to visit us and dh has been planning some trips to NY and FL with MIL. I simply don' t want to go with her. I couldn' t tell dh I didn' t want to go with your mom. So I backed out. I told him to go with his mom and me staying home with kid. He would not go without me and he dropped the plan altogether. Try it out ,if that' ll help you. Ritika replied. You are right...going on a family holiday with in laws you don' t get along with, is going to ruin your fun quite a bit.

Tell your husband that this time lets just the 3 of us go (your hubby, you and yr son)...because its going to be very hectic and they being old might not be able to keep up all day..later, maybe next year we can go all together to just 1 or 2 cities which you think your parents would also like and enjoy.

You could also say that let your parents enjoy some peace by themselves here...whatever it takes to convince him...