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Dear Friends, Hope you all are fine. Dear dddd thanks for your enquiry. I am logging onto internet after a long time and saw your message. Thanks once again.

I came back to US with my baby. My husband' s relatives back in India insisted on me going to his house. I did that. He let me in and asked me to stay there for that night. Next day his parents were abusing me. I questioned them. He asked me to to get out. He didn' t even answer whether he received my green card or not. He called the cops. My in-laws and husband were complaining that i was harassing them. I said it was them who were doing that to me. Since i didn' t have a car or phone of my own, i couldn' t call the cops. They saw my baby sleeping there. I also reported about my green card issue. The cops asked my husband to hand over my green card ( i got it now!)
My husband already gave a complaint to the cops that i ran out of the country with his baby. I was aware of it before i left india. (One press person of the local newspaper got hold of my email id and asked me to tell my story when i was in india and that is how i came to know). After the cops left i told my husband that i knew about his complaint beforehand, inspite of which i came back to him to know his stand on our reunion. I was explaining him about all my moves so far and my wish to live with him. He cried a lot. He was telling he knew i am a good person, still he is not sure what decision he should take. Anyway he is not going to marry anyone again!

His parents started abusing me. His father came to hit me and asked me to get out. For that my husband was asking them not to be rude to me. Anyway it is clear that my husband' s conscience works but still his brain is controlled by his parents and sister.
My baby is with him. He is taking good care of her and cooperating with me with visitation but strictly following the rules which was laid out for an elderly kid and not for an infant. I cannot see my baby longing for me. So now i appointed a lawyer to set aside the judgement (of legal separation and child custody). We are not yet divorced. I am staying in one of my friends house who is helping me in everyway. She is taking care of all my commuting for the time being. All indian and american friends are helping me in every way and i owe a lot to them. Once i get a car, a job and an apt i can settle down. Shanthi replied. Hi Sumathi,
I was going through your msgs.
I don' t believe black magic can cause so much effect on your husband.It is all in our head...when things get worst to console ourself we just accept what ever priest says.I agree thinking about all the time about your in laws can cause bad vibration around you and harm you or make things worst.it has nothing to do with what they do to you.
You need to be strong.Right now just don' t think about black magic is going to effect you or your husband.Just assume everything will be fine. and your husband is going to realise his mistake and surely going to come to you.BELIEVE THIS 100%. SEE HOW THINGS WILL CHANGE DRAMATICALLY.i AM NOT MAKING THIS TO YOU..BELIEVE ME IT WORK.
Lots of love and best luck to you Tanu replied. Sumathi,

You are a brave woman. I admire you for you are keeping yourself strong in this difficult time of your life. I can imagine how hard it would be for you to stay away from your baby even if it is a temporary phase. I wish you all the best. Just remember that God helps those who help themselves. You are doing your part by fighting for your rights and there is no reason why God won' t help you.
Do share with this board with a big smile as soon as you gain your child' s custody. You are in my prayers.
Best Wishes,
Tanu dd replied. Hi Sumathi,How are you?.You see i told u this becoz in my case i thought God will help me and kept making excuses for my husband' s behaviour.He is jobless,He is in stress. But in the end i had to give him. I thought God will help him realize. It didnt happen and now i am a nervous wreck. I am depressed most of the times and cry a lot. Whose fault is it?I blame my in laws and their acts for it. Even though my parents spent thousands and thousands to do pujas to remove the effect of black magic my in laws did. Still it didnt have any effect on my husband. He was still abusive. When last year he said he wanted to marry my relative and not leave me and abused me physically i had to do something. Dont let yours go as far as mine.I will regret everyday in my life that i suffered for 4 yrs without any fault of mine.
Although it doesnt take a lot of time to do black magic.It takes a lot of time to remove its effects. I am still removing mine.
My parents felt bad when i told them ,but at the same time they took remedial measures to do something about it.
Does your husband also stay in the same city as you?Maybe what u said is also correct.Counselling may help here a lot.
take care. dddd replied. Sumathi,My heart felt wishes to you. You are a brave woman.You know last year for 2 months i was stuck in my apartment with no human contact and only TV and net. I dont know car driving too. I cried my heart out and cursed my in laws and my SIL. Even today i do that. Now my husband listens to it.
It is high time our in laws and SIL' s suffer for putting us thru this. Sumathi i dont know if i am over the limit,but my in my case it was full blown black magic too. That my husband and me shud be always fighting and he shud be abusive to me. Not that its not his habit. His brother and his dad and abusive . You must be aware as i told u before. I got a doubt when my husband abused me very badly when i helped him find a job. I asked my parents to check and my doubt was true. My in laws had done black magic on my husband as he kept telling them he cant live without them on the phone. I feel it is same here too. I may be wrong too.I know one of my relative too was stuck in family squabble. Her in laws drove her out of the house 2-3 times to her parents house. the 3rd time she didnt go and when checked with a known person ,he confirmed it was full blown black magic done by in laws to separate son from DIL. Have u checked for that. I know u may feel being educated we shudnt talk or think like this. But for me my in laws themselves do it. In fact my MIL in my last trip to india asked me if my son is not listening to u tell me i will give u something such that he listens.
There is no harm in checking right. My mom and dad checked when i told them from here and confirmed it.
how old is your baby. Dont worry your in laws will grow tired of looking after her and start acting up and soon u will get her back. In laws just want to cuddle the baby when she is fed and changed and freshened up by DILs.
From when your in laws are here?your SIL here permanently. just wait for your in laws to get back.
And as far your hubby dont worry from what u said he is torn. See my hubby hasnt apologized and still expects me to say i am sorry for calling the cops. Only i wont say it.
Best of luck . Take care.Post back. dd replied. Sumathi dont worry about your SIL. You have your neighbour who helped u as your witness.
Does your SIL stay in US. Do your in laws also stay here.Try talking to your husband when he is at work.See if your husband separates from u or the baby ,the loss will only be his. Will your SIL or in laws leave their family becoz brother or son is not with family definitely not. You just need to make him realize this.
by the by why did you leave the baby with them. In a week or before that they will grow tired of looking after the baby and act cranky in front of your husband .See they are not mothers to do all baby work with joy.
Where does your husband stay?
Take care and post back so as kumar suggested we may be able to help u in a small way.
Take care. Sumathi replied. Thanks to both of you. I am worried if my sil will file a case against me in california claiming i have spoilt her name with my pettition in Indian court. I know i am in a fix, but there is no other way except for facing it since i decided to do that. Now i just have God as my witness. I am staying in southwest Missouri dddd. I will try the other website which said, kumar. dddd replied. Sumathi ,Thanks for gettting back. How are you now?

Now after seeing your post i feel your husband has realized his mistake and regretting it.He is torn b/n his parents and you. In laws in your case and my case are worst of the kind.

One idea to get a hold of thing is i feel ,Do you have your husband' s cell number or anything?Or his office location. Just point blank go there during lunch time or something and ask him you want to talk to him for few min.
Tell him how you feel and ask him you want to come home.If your FIL does the same then call the cops . Tell them your in laws are harassing you and you want to be alone with your hubby. Now your hubby is in your favor. Make use of it .
For the baby ,i understand how you feel.As heart breaking as it is seek legal help.I hope i am not out of line do you stay near detroit.
Take care and try for a customer service job for the time being as it is quite easy it seems to get. Take care.Dont worry we are all there with you. maybe not in person but in a mental way.Take care dont lose hope . It always gets worse before getting well for anything.
Ritika replied. Best of luck Sumathi!! You are a brave girl and all my wishes are with you!! *hugz*

I hope you find a job real soon, so most of yr financial problems get sorted out.

Are you planning to not keep your baby? Even later on?

Anyways, take care and all the very best once again...