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Iam married for 11 yrs.All is alright between me and my husband the only thing that irritates me are his habits,one he is addicted to his mobile once i caught him sending very funny messages to a cousin of mine like\" Do you like me or love me\" or hello beautiful etc. etc. The poor cousin of mine showed me her mobile she was feeling bad and embarrased.on confrontiong he said that there is no such thing she is just like my sister.next there was abad MMS on his mobile this time he said it was sent to him by a freind and forgot to delete it.Now again he is into the habit of sending sms' s to his collegue but he deletes it quickly,his outbox seems to be full of messages sent to her if his intentions are clear why would he delete the matter,Iam unable to understand becos we share a good realtionship ,he is understanding and takes care of me too.Am I making a mountain of mole hill or my fears are true i dont know but yes iam certainly disturbed.I dont keep too well because of my asthma .My inlaws areterrible there is no question talking about any matter to them for they can torture me more.Iam very very confused.PLeas help........ ur friend replied. hi jeeva...

im just typing my views kindly do not misunderstand me and dont take it to heart..

I may be younger than you but i have a really close sister in law (bhabhi) who is also married to my brother from last 12 yrs and we discuss the problems quite often with each other.

i think after 11 yrs of marriage..a lady tends to get little careless in dressing up and make overs...i would suggest you to buy new smart dresses and very attractive night dresses for yourself..

keep urself very well groomed and dressed especially in front of ur husband all the time.

Second thing..do not ask, nag or blame him for keeping such mms' s and pics or sms' s that he is sending to his girl colleague...because if u do so...instead of sharing he will hide those from u and tend to delete it....

but do not also by any act encourage him ..means u should be neutral..no encouragement no discouragement..

if u find one such sms or mms... see it in front of him without any complain

do not question him??

rather enjoy the sms or mms with him...pass comments saying that..oh my god..this girl in sms is so bold and beautiful....its really enjoyable watching these videos .. its fun...so we can enjoy watching it together ..etc etc.

Do you possess a mobile?

if yes ..then tell him that you would love it if he calls you with those wonderful words like \" hi beautiful or hi baby..\" and sends u such sms' s..

what i mean is that u show that u r still young at heart and do not mind these things if they are exchanged with you.

And start it as soon as possible..before the things go out of hands..change ur hair style..dress up well....and no use discussing these things with parent in laws if u dont think so...

Luv to you
meenakshi replied. Hello

I hv noted yr problems, in my opinion u tell the cousin sister to fire yr husband for sending these type of emails, because he will not listen u. unless he get punishment from outsiders he will not stop his habit.