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I have been married for the last 10 years. Has a 5 year old school going kid. We r staying in a nuclear family. Both of us are working. Always short of time. Now the problem is that.... he is not at all cooperative. I am managing everything cooking, washing, paying bills, child' s education and other household expenses. I love doing my duties , but only the thing that i need his help and support. At times i feel like that everything is on my head and my husband is taking me granted. My case has become more or less like a single parenting. He is not giving any money for household expenses. I have spoken to him number of times on this to help me out. Every times he promises me but nothing in practical. He has taken lots of personal and credit card loans, so whatever money he earns goes in repaying those debts. I suggested him number of times to handover his salary and let me manage those debts. Sincerely i want to help him out but he is not listening to me. only good thing abt him is that he loves his daughter a lot. I have told him that atleast help me in household jobs, like getting vegetables from the market etc. But nothing is working out. He spends his whole time in the office only and on weekend at home watching tv. At times i feel totally demotivated. I can' t think of seperation because of my child. Is something lacking in me? Please help me out in finding out a solution to this problem. Debika replied. Dear SS, Its Husband' s duty to take care of family . Your husband is taking you for granted bcoz You have always taken all resp. by yourself. Stop working for a few months. Cook for yourself & kid but not for your husband. If he falls ill,dont give him medicine. Stop talking to him. Share your prblem with all family friends . Tit for Tat. Stop doing all those things that your hubby needs to survive & make him feel ashamed. Its his duty to feed for his family, not yours. Do you have parents/brother living nearby ? take their help & but dont leave your house. Ask him 10-15K Rs every month or else dont cook for him. Take away all his clothes, cosmetics & spread this story to his office Pratyusha replied. Hi...

I can understand the situation...Now all you need to do is...Sit and talk to your husband cooly..It should not be a situation that you are alone managinf the situation..First of all, plan some how and try to understand the no of commitments (amount), then then try to make him understnd that you will manage everything on your own..and then ask hime the amount he gets and pay off the CC bills first...and slowly things will be alrite.