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Name: USAmom

Hi friends,

I have been seaching for some place to put my problem and get some help -


I have been married for 6 years and have a 2yr old handsome boy. Ours was love marriage without any issues both the parents agreed easily. My parents are well off and I am too equally good earning,
my MIL started saying bad things about my family and me to my husband. as he is the only one earning and she doesnt want to loose her power over him. my FIL is just joru ka gulam and doesnt have guts to face my MIL over any matter. we have never stayed in joint family but whenever they visit us even after they left our relationship becomes hell.


my husband who himself is very lazy, lethergic, doesnt take any pain in household work or any other responsibility. He doesnt even communicate with me well, I dont remember any instance when we sat and discussed over any problem. Always uses me as maid and passes negative remarks. also he doesnt play actively with kid. he is too reserve and very lethargic. doesnt want to eat heathly or go exercise. I dont think in last 7 yrs he has appreciate anytime me for my cooking or look or any thing. He is not bothered about me and it only me who is taking all the steps to prevent out marriage. he always wants repect for him and his family and money in his hand.
our child goes to day care and doing well, I spent quality time with him in the morning and evening and weekends. I also do all cooking and household work by myself. sometimes my husband helps me voluntarily, but if I ask him for small help either he will not do it or will bluntly say that he is not my servant. I need to discipline my kid a this age whereas I keep spending time on my husband, he does changes his dress after office or at night, not even removing plates from dining table.
the more I try to help him in improving on such small small things, he is becoming more n more adamant. sometimes our house is full of mess, I am okay with that too but over that his really heart breaking commemts.


He is not even ambitious about his career. I am earning much higher than him, but I have never highlighted it.

Life looks to me a big challenge and I am handling it all alone,I am scared thinking of breaking the relationship, as it will not be good for kid. but I am really really tired of this life.I have met with car accident twice because of poor sleep and less concentration, but thankfully no injuries. please suggest what should I do to improve our relationship.


thanks a lot reading my problem -

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