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Hi
I am a mother of 11/2 years old who' s very fussy to eat too.

Who else can take care of a kid except a mother ?

I am working , leaving her from her 2nd month.
First of all if he' s taking care of the baby you have to trust him
Leaving the baby for phone calls is nothing.
He cannot always sit with the baby and he needs to take care of other things too.
Even if you stay at home u cannot do those.
Yes . It' s really tough to take care of the baby when compare to hectic work in office.

As the other person said make her hungry and eat.
Even if she does not , leave her.
She' ll come to out.

What I have learned is we canot give responses to all the baby' s cries.
They' ll become fussy and adament.
When they are 6 months , we need to let them play by themselves
which makes them very independent and confidnet.
Try some raisins and put them in the high chair or in the clean floor and make her
try eat by herslef. Try different foods when you are at home and try.
Believe me , after coming home from office I cook for her 3-4 dishes.
Whatever she likes I will give her and I will eat the rest if possible or throw it.

Just think about MOMs who wake up early morning, prepare food,
make the kid ready , feed them , leave her / him in the day care,
go to work / pick them / play with them / feed them / make them sleep.
People are doing it without the maid support.
Think where you stand.
Again I am saying \" If a mother cannot listen to a child , or tolerate a child ,
nobody else can be'

Talk to your husband , leave her in the daycare.
Let me tell you one thing. After going to daycare my daughter is doing better in eating.
Because they see other kids eating.
You both can work and leave her in the daycare.She' ll play and will have a good time.
As she' s seeing more friends. She' ll learn sharing and so many good things.

Your husband can also relax. Again if you donot like that idea and wants your husband to
take care of her , be patient, trustful.

When you think bad of him, try to be in that position and see.
If you are at home , will u be always with the kid. Not even talking to others,
Not exposing yourself to outside worls ... be patient.Appreciare what he' s doing.
I have to say he' s a great daddy.


You talked about kid not coming with you.
when moms stay home they are more attached to them than dad.
The same in your case but in reverse.
Try to come home early. Play with her , sing with her.
Taking care of babies is fun.
Take her out.
Take her regularly for a walk. Explore the world to her.
You' ll get a wonderful life.

Please.... donot complain your husband. See the daddy' s who thinks that they are there only to play with the kid. Your husband is really great.


I hope I have not hurted you. I am also in the IT field and work 24 *7.
I was a prokect manager who manages more than 100 people.
Going to all client places and I was like a queen.
But after 1 year , 1 left my job and working as a developer in a govt firm through consultancy. I ahve lost so much in my profession.
But I am very happy because I can spend more time with my kid which I cannot get it back in my life.

Some suggestions for food.

Donot go for rice always .
Make some kheer which has protein and carbohydrate, calcilum...
Try jello which all kids like and very healthy too.
Try giving her veggies like cucumber which she can bite by herself and eat
Offer her paneer .Just fried.
Give her cheeststicks.
Offer her fruits . remove the seeds and she can eat by herself

If she' s till fussy , if you have neightbours having son/daughter try to feed them too. By seeing them she may eat.

Try different things. When you feed , donot think that it' s your duty .You' ll get frustrated.

Think about the moments when she' ll get older and going to look like you , dress like you, going to play with you and help in the kitchen, help you in all ways and being a good friend.
Have all love in heart and feed her.

Because when you feed , your feelings are transferred through food to them.Thats why mothers are prefer to feed the kids than fathers

Change your mind. Start a new life.
All the best
kumar replied. Lakshmi,

Yours was a very detailed and analytical response. I deeply appreciate your thought and undertanding of the situation posed. You have the potential to be a good counsellor. Keep up your good work. rr replied. Lakshmi,

Thanks a ton!! I usally considered my baby as center point and wound against her never even thought my hubby' s requirements..ur right he is doing good..probably i require a change..will try my best to change..thanks