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Hi,
I have been married for 2 yrs now. Our sex life is just ok. My husband never makes the first move. its always me. but he would reciprocate hence i was ok as i really love him. it so happened that we both were talking in bed about sex and stuff. thats when he told me tht he masturbates in bed...when i' m sleeping right next to me if we don' t hv sex for more than 3 days. we have a new born and so not surprisingly we have sex very less often than earlier. on the weekends or once in 15 days. this is also when i make a move. he also told me that he also imagines about beautiful models and actresses in bed when he masturbates and when we have sex too. i was glad that he' s honest but this really hurt me. i asked him then why doesn' t he make the first move instead of masturbating. he says he' s shy. i don' t believe this. ours is a love marraige and he' s not a shy guy for sure. he' s not expressive but definitely not shy. i have never pushed him away if he approached me. which i don' t remember if it really happened other than the first month after our marraige. he says its normal to visualize other women when u' re in bed hving sex with your wife. to me this is unbelievable. can anyone please share their experiences or tell me if this is normal. if not then how should i deal with this. i will talk to him again but again i' m glad he was honest to me. should i panic about this or just leave it?? i feel bad that he never came to me for sex but just masturbated. we married when he was 38 yrs old. is this the reason?? i think maybe he was used to masturbating so he enjoys that more?? i am clueless. he says i' m beautiful and he likes me. MAHESH replied. he likes lot of sex thats why he does like that , he is hidding his interest fghijk replied. hi sunshine,

i dont know much abt it...i saw no replies to ur msg so im replying only through what i have read in magazines and discussion columns...

Masturbation is quite a normal thing..and most of the men do have fantasies about other women so dont worry....making a first move is not a big issue so again no worries...

one may get more satisfaction doing it himself especsially if he/she is habitual...so be cool..ur life is going good.
all the best