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Hi Kiran and ABC,

Thanks a lot for your advice and highly appreciate your help.

My husband I hope is trying to be back and yes ABC his subconcious mind plays with him all the time. And that female now putting all blame on my husband that he loves him and was forcing him to get married rather my husband tells the another story and does not want to be in touch but when she wants her to calls he does that but comes and tells me.

I have asked her sis to speak to her re this and she mentioned to her that she never had any physical realtion and he loves her and not she...

I am really in flux as I have lost faith after so many ditches and also I can see him pain as whenever such things happen that I caught him red handed on some or the other things as YOU ABC mentioned that he tries to be in touch... he says he doesnt know why did this ... pl help pl ABC replied. Hi Nids

You are lucky , I am not so regular on this message board but today I don' t know what happened I just opened this page and saw your new post . Anyway , As I told you from our past experiences , these are all short term relations and normally they terminate with the bad note. Try and hold your husband, his subconscious mind will disturb him a lot during this phase. Believe me if he really wants his family back he will look all the opportunities to hold you and talk to you . He will discuss his problem with you rather than avoiding you .

As far as that female is concerned , if at any stage she starts getting singles that she is going to loose this battle . She will try and save herself and put all the blame on your husband with all sorts of lies .. Don' t discuss anything with your husband whatever you hear from that female. Remember she also wants to maintain her relations with her sister and her family. Since whatever happened till date has to be mutual otherwise this stage shouldn' t have reached. Also , I remember you mentioned in your first post that she is sister of your close friend. But all this should not worry you. Just ignore all that . This will disturb you more. Your primary objective should be to handhold your husband and save your family rather than chasing that female. She can get her peace of mind later.

All the best to you and your family . Keep faith in yourself !!!!
nan replied. U know as earlier said, I gone thru the same. But in case or I can say how much I know my husband stop connection to ABC completly. This effort shud come from yr husband. In my case this thing goes on for 5 monthssss, I hope.
But now after 3 yrs I can say my husband had put double the effort to save this marriage. Your husband now needs to b strong at this point. He cannot survive on 2 boat at same time.
Nids I really can feel yr pain which u r going thru. I still remember I relly lost my mental balance at that time.
God give u strenght to survive this difficult phase, I will pray for u.