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HI Sumi,
I don' t think you,ll generate any sympathy here.Sorry to be rude but you are an intellegent,educated,working women.How can you let yourself go through this mental and financial abuse.Stand up and give back to them.
Don' t become a doormat for them.
nn sumi replied. Thanks for all the boosting words.
I really donot want to break the relationship . the reasons for the following

- My husband is a very good father and husband too.
- He' ll do activities for her [we both share based on the time]
- He' s a very good husband too .
- if I come late , he used to cook, taking me to the doctor , drop me if I feel tired and cannot drive , picking my daughter from the day care ....
- He as a husband doing his work properly as for as I am funding their family.
- He' s not abusing me physically.

My complaints are the following

- But my MIL and SIL , FIL does somthing and even if he feels it' s wrong he' ll not tell them. Instead he' ll tell so many lies to me and try to save them.
- But he has a private life , totally egoistic life
- For him as a girl his sister , mother is different and I am different.
Ex : When his parents said they cannot come for my delivery he justified them.
but when his second sister was pregnant and her MIL refused to send her to his house he blamed them for that and said my sister is suffering a lot
- He' s a kind of character that he never think about me and if any other' s wife has some issues and his friends are taking care of them he' ll advise them and prove him that he' s a good husband
- He does not want to listen to me. If the same thought is told by others he' ll agree.
- Every month I am sending money to his family. If he asked me to send 500$ extra I should not question. if I then the problem starts. My MIL and SILs will tell something and get money from him/ me. I know the facts for the charges. so he never tell me anything.


I completely stopped crying and I started doing my work without caring about anyone in the family. I left the job which I was doing it for the past 8 years as a senior project leader and joined in a consultant based job due to the timing issues and want to spend more time for the family.But I am very much depressed. To state of getting agitiated for even the tv sound. I am very restless and cannot concentrate on things.I am slowly getting recovered from that.

Now the main thing is I neeed to make my husband understand my side and understand that my SILs has husbands and they need to take care of their family.

I know very well that he cannot reject his parents as he' s the only son.
I donot want to leave them in the middle of the road.
I Just want my husband understand that I too have a life to live with and
I want him to understand my feelings , talents and consider me as a part of the family.
When his mother tells something about me , I need to him to justify the good part of my side.
With this , I hope I can lead a good life.