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hi,

i have been reading this board quite often and feel its a very good place where people help.im also in a very depressed state right now.i have previously also written about my problems here.
well nowdays my SIL has come for a month to stay with us.my life has become hell.there is soo much work in house that all my schedule has got spoiled.From thr beginning i had no good relations with her cause she was very interfering.But this time i find a change in her let say 40.she is not that much interfering now,but the problem is she wants everyone on her toes specially me all the time.
the whole day she is shopping,going out or watching movies and her kid is looked after by my MIL.Im working and when im back home she expects me to go to kitchen and do work.neither my MIL,FIL or hubby say anything who is she to tell me all that.we have a cook at home...he manages well.i mean i dont mind working in kitchen but who is she to tell me what i have to do and what not.every house has its own way of living...she really sometimes irritates me...because of her im always in tension.My hubby dosent say anything to her sister...i know my responsibilities but i dont like her telling me things or pointing out my mistakes.

the other problem is that i ahd a misscarriage a few months back.it was so upset but gradually im coming out of it.My FIL went to some pandit and showed my and hubby kundli to them.that pandit has said that both of us should keep fast on one day and have food without salt on that day. can u imagine its so difficult to have food without salt.this way it will be good for our next child.i want to know what is MY FAULT.i never wanted to miscarry.i got so upset that FIL keeps on asking astrologers stupid things.i told my husband he is ready to keep fast reluctantly,because of him even i have to keep.we are staying with in laws.i dont like all this on top of that my SIL is saying that i should cook my own food on fast day no one will do anything for you.im so tired by end of the day.i told my cook to make what i wanted to eat but dont put salt,so she blasted me that im lazy and kamchor and lot more other things.i dont understand why is she bothered what im doing or handling.
im so depressed because of her,otherwise things are ok but she is very cunning.My MIL dosent say anything to her.i hate both of them...but in a very helpless state..plez help me.
Chameli replied. hey dear dont worry

U can' t or nobody can change these ILs.But i can give u some suggestions to tackle the situation.

Rt now ur pbm is SIL.

1.Think that she will be here only for one month.


If possible prepare a calender by urself writing the numbers in descending (Like starting from 30 if there is 30 more days for her to go).Keep striking one number at the end of each day.Have this in ur office cabin & not at home.

Usually i feel like this whenever i want some stage in my life to pass.

2.When u come home tired from office if she says do something, u dont say no to her instead nod ur head and go to ur MIL and say u have little head ache and want to take some rest and u ' ll be back soon and go to ur bed and lie down happily.

Or if u don' t feel like to sleep.Freshen up and say ur friend suggested some meditation pooja and go and sit for prayer.

3.As for ur saltless food,nobody can fast for a day and have saltless food at the end happily.I donno abt u and ur beliefs.If it was me i won' t keep fast or anything but i sure will pray God for my kid.Worst part is u can' t cook by urself u know working and fasting and come home and cook.Too bad.Y don' t u just pray god to guard ur next child and have food in the office.So that u ' ll not have any pbm in cookling saltles food for night.After all u work.U have to eat daily or u might develop gal bladder stones and stuff.Then what good will be there for ur next child.Say u r fasting.Go n have food in office.But this is what i think.This issue may be u have to decide by urself.

4.ILs are our problems.Remember we an' t change pbms but can solve it.

Try this and cheer up dear lady...