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My huband is working out of country & having there an extra marital affair he comes home for 4days in 2 OR 4 months even before that when he was not working & was with me he was having extra marital affair which i came to know later.
I LOVED HIM SO MUCH BUT NOW I JUST HATE HIM FOR THIS.& I ALSO LOVE HIM SO MUCH THAT I CANT IMAGINE LIVING WITHOUT HIM.
I have to continue live like this bcoz he pays us for living, my children are still studying & 3yrs left for him to start earning.
I´ m a housewife no way if I leave him.
My sister is divorced & living with her bahu beta she tells me to live anyway my husband keeps me but dont leave him bcoz staying with bahu beta is far more difficult than staying with husband keeping you in any condition,& that i will need him in all difficult time,& bahu beta will not have time for me.
Do u think she is right,or she thinks like this bcoz she has her own sad life.
Just staying for bugs to have a nice lifestyle, being betrayed by ur loved one is very difficult.
My heart is becoming weaker day by day.
I also want my son to marry a nice girl from our community if I take any step I will spoil their life I have been supporting this since after marriage just for my children or else he would had taken my children from me.
If anyone can help me with SOME GOOD ADVICE.
THANKS !


replied. Hi, seems to be like you are in a very bad situation. After hearing to your story i would suggest you to sit for a discussion with your husband.
How is it that you know about his extra marital affair and are still quiet? He is wrong and even he knowS it. Ask him to put an end to all his illegal affairs. Try sorting it out without spoiling your relationship. If he doesn' t agree to this then you can go for a divorce. There is no point leading your life with a husband who has given your position to someother woman. You can always ask for alimony to support your children' s education and your livelihood. Try finding a job as soon as possible whether you leave your husband or not. Any good job should do for now and age doesn' t matter.
But considering your son' s education i would ask you to wait for 3more years before going for separation. Try telling your kids about your husband. Your son is old enough to know all these. Leaving with beta and bahu might be bad but is far far better than living with a person who doesn' t love you.
Do not be afraid, do not lose heart, be bold...