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My huband is working out of country & having there an extra marital affair he comes home for 4days in 2 OR 4 months even before that when he was not working & was with me he was having extra marital affair which i came to know later.
I LOVED HIM SO MUCH BUT NOW I JUST HATE HIM FOR THIS.
I have to continue live like this bcoz he pays us for living, my children are still studying & 3yrs left for him to start earning.
I' m a housewife no way if I leave him.
My sister is divorced & living with her bahu beta she tells me to live anyway my husband keeps me but dont leave him bcoz staying with bahu beta is far more difficult than staying with husband keeping you in any condition,& that i will need him in all difficult time,& bahu beta will not have time for me.
Do u think she is right,or she thinks like this bcoz she has her own sad life.
Just staying for bugs to have a nice lifestyle, being betrayed by ur loved one is very difficult.
My heart is becoming weaker day by day.
I also want my son to marry a nice girl from our community if I take any step I will spoil their life I have been supporting this since after marriage just for my children or else he would had taken my children from me.
If anyone can help me with their consoling words.
THANKS !
Chameli replied. I understand the pain in ur situation.Prayer & time should heal this.

Ur sister is correct.

In whatever way ur husband neglects u can bear.But u really can' t put up when ur son or DIL neglects u.

And definitely they won' t have time for U.

I am far younger than u .May be i shud n' t give suggestions.Still i want to share my opinion with you.

' m sorry to say this but what if ur bahu doesn' t treat u well.If u complin abt her to ur son they will get pbms in their life.This situation will be far worse than ur current one.Better stay in ur husband' s house.

Try to concentrate on something like prayer,friends.U can contribute in this forum.U might be able to give suggestions to many girls here. r replied. sorry i wrongly replied to you. This reply is for Jessi r replied. The way you said that your mom has taken take of you from childhood even her mom has taken care of her ,she has left her parents only for you its not so easy to get along with a new family.
She must also be feeling lonely think with whom would she share her problems .

Best suggestion try to have equal balanced relationship with mom and wife. r replied. Hi I can truely understand your situation.Want to inform you female are very possesive about mens they can share anything but not hubby and son.I know you love your mom and respect her she has taken care of you from child hood but also see that in your absence does your mom behave well with your wife ,share her problems or things as exchange sarees or jewellery .A coin always has two sides and also try to explain your wife taht even you have a son if he also behaves with you like that in future you will have hard time .

Try to have equal balance sharetime with both mom and wife if nothing works stop talking to them and tell them both to get along well or they both will loose you and then leave them alone let them decide among themselves how imp are you for them.