Name: Hetal

kanika, like everyone said, you need to cool down and relax yourself. i understand that its frustrating to go by standard set by elders that sometimes we dont agree but to insult them is no good.you have to understand that your child is not the only child who must be going thru this, there are many parents out there who follow these style of upbringing,no matter how bad it sounds to you or anyone, whatever you wrote is a over reaction to your own anger!
there is a reason why people have been following a certain style of upbringing,,even many races in US follow rules tht are exactly opposite to recommended standards...its not proper to comment on a particular community.
i dont have much to say here, people here have already explained you good that takin him to your mil fav dr will solve all the problems..
and i have to add that,your mil is elder than you are and she is an experienced mother,,much more than i or you or neone out here,and m sure that your mil is not making your baby drink LITRES of milk !!
and yes even though its a practise that is too early for your baby to digest foods,,,its not needed for you to insult it..
handle these things with understanding that medical science much later than these practises and esp in india,,in the longer run, our styles have been world wide accepted..
elders dont respect new/first time moms feeling its obvious because they know that are experienced..tellme onething, when your dr tells you to introduce something that you didnt like or something you never ate in your life,,,does it meean that he insulted you..its not the case dear. your mil also loves your child and acc to whatever is her knowledge she is trying to help. handle this situation with love and understanding instead of insulting your elders..i tell you, you will understand why they do that. there is a reason and infact a practical reason why they are doing that. refer my post to rayyan i have mentiond that many cultures even today follow giving cows milk or ne other animals milk right from birth along with mothers milk...but its not that these US standards or recommendations have now mature information and research which makes us understand the facts about foods,,but you follow it because you are convinced with them..and not because they are year old practises..
you think they are stamped for perfection and correctness !! well, its not the case,,medical science and infant nutrition is still an ongoing proces and after 2 year if you visit this site,,you yourself will find me giving out recommendations that are CURRENT at that time,and they might be huge difference in them !!

but that doesnt mean that whatever we made our kids RIGHT NOW,,,is something that can defined as shit practise !! well,its not proper on anyone to blame a particular community for believing in something that they think is true,,instead just taking your MIL or your whole family to a good dr that they believe in,,will solve the problem in minutes..and if you want your personal decision to be held true before them...just do onething,, before goin to dr,just give your ped a call, that talk to him frankly that this is your fear and that you are not willing to start solids or give cows milk n want to bf,,he will tell you with a definate and clear answers about your thinking and he will advice accordingly before your family members,,so the things are solved at ease..
you are lucky to have so many people around you to care for your lil one,,most kids in US dont get grand parents love because of its lifestyle and because most of elders are not able to stay longer to see them growing....so take care and dont get tensed..relax yourself and njoy with elders around..

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