Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

... looks like ur really going thru bad phase. But nothing is permenant.This will also change.Just take each day as it comes.
And learn to form trust in god. ...That will really help u to overcome many difficulties...because that will build ur own WILL POWER which is most important to achieve anything specially when it seems difficult.
I hope ur understanding what i mean to say.

Well with me the time was just right. I was on my IVF treatment when my SIL went into labour. When the baby was born my first cycle was being done. and in that cycle itself i conceived.
So the time of her baby birth and my conception coincides.
Infact the babys age and my no of months of pregnancy is exactly same. Thats how even my sil remembers im into which month ( im one week ahead).
I attribute all this to God Almighty. He was really kind to me.but i prayed a lot.
When my sil was in labour i was very mad but kept cool .And when the baby was born i was very excited surprisingly. My mil put the very new born baby in my arms and i was holding him all thruout.I was very happy to see and hold the baby. Infact the next day full i was with my sil in the hospital .

Yes pari u shud see the infertility spe soon as possible. Because even the infertility treatment can take time...so u shud not waste time.

Please u and ur husband shud be more open to treatment like IUI and IVF if required. talk to ur hubbyu about the same.

Initially even i was (noy my hubby) apprehensive about going in for IVF. I thought i miight conceive naturally. And i waited for more than a year taking all hormone medicine and injections.

Then finally i decided to think logically and decided taht i will go for IVF.
Some docs said that i shud first try IUI rather than IVF.
But since i wanted to waste no more time I decided to go for IVF( ICSI)because with low sperm counts IUI also give very less chances of conception.
Any ways before deciding also other factors need to be considered....like cost , Success rates ( one may need 2-3 cycles..which can be very time and money consuminf amd more over depressing)
, some medical problems that might arise due to which the cycle cud be discontinuedmidway and so on. Because one has to be mentally prepared for all this and more. Then u also need to disscuss what procedures wud be carried out on ur body ( like hormone injections, Anesthetias given for aspirations and all that)because its only the female body which is subjected to all this.
So u need lots of patience.

But may be ur problem can be solved without IVF.So u need to see infertility spe. They will be better to diagnose and give solution / suggestion to u. What i meant to say was just go with open mind and think rationally.....and do whatever is best.

And forget inlaws. Jsut concentrate on this matter. Ask for ur hubby support ...if he cares he will support u. Now is the real time to be with each other.

ur BIl will get married eventually as his age and his wife also might conceive early.But u need not loose heart....thats why i said u shud start trusting in god.U will get waht u want oneday.

i hope this all helps pari.
well next week my hubby will come back. so i will be a bit busy...also have to clean the house and all that. so might not be able to log in .

U take care .
lots of love
sanj
sanjana replied. Also pari when my sil baby was born i didnt know i wud conceive. I came to know only after almost one month when i did my blood test.