Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Hello all,

We are planning for a baby and I' m really confused as to how can i concieve! I would like to know the right time to have an intercourse after my periods. I get my periods every 6th or 7th of the month.Please advice. Lucy replied. Hey, Hope you are doing well. Well don't Worry. Somethings are unplanned. You don't need to worry about it. When there will be right time for it, You will conceive. there is no fixed right time. Right time begins when we decide to do something. You just have to make your mind for it. And prepare yourself for it. Every time is right time. Don't take so much stress. Be relax. Otherwise extra stress could make things difficult for you. So be strong and calm. Make your self free. You will eventually feel okay. And then you will be able to take right decisions. and You should consult a good doctor for it. A doctor can suggest you better what to do. My prayers and wishes are with you. And do pray for me as well. I am undergoing my surrogacy these. Wish me luck. I hope it works for me. Meghnah replied. hello babysos,
See ur ovulating:-)Thats very gud..U dont have 2 worry abt anything now..Theresz nothing major or minor 2 worry abt.Now is the time for u 2 be happy:-)...n think what 2 do next..

BBT method is very simple.If u have any doubts regarding this method,feel free 2 ask me,I know it though not fully,but I' m sure I can surely help u out...hmm 60 kgs n 5.6 is not bad...PCOS I thought normally cumes 2 too much over weight ppl..But ur healthy..I' m 5.7 n 52..so u can call me lil underwieght...But anyways after this pregnancy now my current wieght is 60..I' m so happy abt this weight.My pregnancy is going on very well.Touchwood..Went for my anamoly scan(its a major one,where they check the baby 4m top to toe),my baby is doing very well,doc said that..Anyways happy abt it:-)..

hey I have one advise,I used 2 do it in my 1 mth TTC phase,ie previous night soak 2 or3 badam,lil raisin,n One fig.Next day eat it first thing in the morning.Thisz very gud..U get lotta protien this way...

anyways take care n do reply when u have time..

lotsa luv
megs

KR replied. Hi Babysos,

Just now saw your post after posting mine. We must have posted on the same time I guess. I was unable to login as I had internet connection problem all day long, just now my husband fixxed it calling the cable guy. Anyway, am glad that you don' t have nothing to worry about. Good that you consultd your Gyn and got hold of what to do to make you feel more better and healthier. Take care care and be positive.

Love,
KR KR replied. Hi babysos,

Don' t worry, everything will be alright. My prayers will be always there for you! Anyway, I don' t have a clue abt PCOS, but am sure once you are done with the scan you can relax. Let' s hope for the best, be stress free.

Take care & lot' s of baby dust!

Keep in touch and keep informed!

Love
KR KR replied. Hi Babysos,

Nothing to worry, it happens to all of us. We were so tired making love everyday, as I' m always a busy mom n my hubby works long hrs too! But it turned out well for us, so keep your finers crossed and be cool.

So when' s your ovualtion period? I guess your ovulation period must be over by this time. So just cheer up, medically making love once in 2-3 days or 3 days per week is more than enough to conviece. So let' s hope for the best. Need not to strain yourself from 7 days before your next period is due. The sperm can be live up to 3 days, so there' s a lot of chance for you guys! But then please don' t stress yourself on this. I believe that you would have atleast made it possible on the most fertile days which shud already have come as per your next period due.

Believe in yourself, everything will go on fine. Please try to relax and remember always stress is not good for you right now, it may affect you and your chances. keep that in mind and try to relax in some way or other. let me know anyhting at all you need and take care!

Lots of baby dust!

Love,

KR KR replied. Hi babysos,

I' m fine, thanks! Glad to hear from you. Keep up the confidence and let' s hope for the best.Eat Healthy, drink lots of fluid and don' t stress.

AS for me my nausea is getting worse, am getting lot of burps and unable to drink water or milk. Don' t have liking for anything to eat. Hope this nausea stops by 12 weeks or so. My next visit is on June 18th.

Wish you good luck and lots & lots of baby dust!

Love
KR KR replied. Hi babysos,

How are you doing? Thanks for your time on the info abt fish. Actually I got a big booklet saying everything about food, servings and what to avoid from the Dr. It says canned tuna, shrimp, salmon, catfish, cod, pollock, clams, flatfish, crabs and scallops have lowest level of mercury and so is safe. And can be taken 12 oz per week that' s may be 3-6 servings in a week. So I guess it' s safe as I take fish only once in a week. But there' s nothing said about Tilapia which I took last week. So I' m little confused and wanted to know if any gyn has suggestd to take it or not. I guess it' s better to avoid unless we know it for sure.

We shud definetly avoid high mercury content like shark, sword fish, king mackerel, fresh tuna or tile fish and any raw fish. This whole fish thing has to be followed by any woman who are trying to get preganant too!

So I thought sherry and you shud know about it. Hope am clear! Take care and keep in touch!

Hey sherry, am sorry for a lot of typo in the message I gave for you! It shud read as
\" Hope to hear some good news from you soon. With your Mom near by, am sure you will feel relaxed too and that might help you a lot! She will also be excited if she hears the news when she´ s around you. Good luck and lots of baby dust on you!\"

Love

KR

KR replied. Hey Sherry,

How are you doing? I was caught up y' day with something and I was totally upset .....so couldn' t visit this board. Hope your Mom is home already. Moms are always Great and we can never do anyhting like them. They give up so much for their childrens and so finally they don' t get time to take of themselves. I' m sure she will gain all her strength back soon. Don' t worry and stress too much, once your mom is here she will be all better just with in couple of days. Just take care of care and spend quality time with her. It' s always wonderful to be with mom wherever we are and how old we become!

Hope to hear to hear some good news from you soon. Wiht your Mom near by am sure you will fell relaxed too and tht might help you a lot! She will always be so excited if she hears the news when she' s around you. Good luck and lots of baby dust on you!

Love
KR Meghnah replied. Hello sherry,
Ur mom is gona be allrite very soon.As U said,get ur mom here,having mom next 2 u,makes u feel better,n obviously she 2 will get better soon,as she has loving daughter 2 take care of her:-).So I know surely very soon,ur gona give us 2 gud news,one,I' m joining due date board n second one,My Mom has bcum completely allrite:-)..U never know ur mom might be ur lucky mascot:-)...

anyways hoping n praying that ur mom will bcum allrite very soon....

take care n loads of luv
megs KR replied. Dear babysos,

Thanks a lot for your hearty wishes. Am really happy to recieve all your messages. It' s great support from all of you! How are doing? Hope you are trying for this month. Lots of baby dust on you and let' s hope for the best this month. Always be relaxed, and let me know if you need anything.

As for me, am 5 weeks pregnant by now and my due date is Jan 5th 2008. I' m feeling extremely tired and having nausea now and then. Gyn didn' t suggest any particular prenatal vitamin, as of now am still taking the mutliviatmin. Will have to call her again and ask about \" Premacare 1\" which my friend suggested.

As for you a little suggestion, try to make love 2-3 days before ovulation and one day after too. Good luck dear!

Take care and be cool!

Lots of love

KR KR replied. Dear Sherry,

Really sorry to hear about it. I actually loggen in to see if you ahve given any message as i remmber your period is due 6th. But it' s okay.....you know you just started your TTC, so don' t panic. There' s nothing wrong in anyhting you have done..I actually drive car like 5 times a day to pick, drop and take my daughter to tuition, library and go shopping too. As Meghnah said may be this wasn' t the month it suppose to be.

As far as making love, I will suggest the way I followed after reading lots and lots of wesites. It' s confusing when you read about it so much, so decided to go on my own. I started in on the 7th day from the first day of my periods( as my period lasts for 5 days) and had baby making session every day till the 14th day. And then there after alternate days till 7 days before your first day of your periods. It' s not necessary that you have to akke love every day, alternate day is enough.

I totally gave up coffee, i was going for 25 mins brisk walk, took multi-vitamin and then had lots of fruits and veggies, atleast 1 fruit and 2 veg a day. Drink lots of fluid and ask her hubby to eat well too...which is very very important.

When you make love, don' t be stressed out thinking about getting pregnant. Raise your hips while making love for deeper penetration and lie down on your back for 15-20 mins on the same postion. I use to rest my legs up on a chair while waiting.........all these are just in case precautions, which is not a rule to follow. because i know i did not do any of these for my first pregnancy. I always use to run to the restroom and wash myself and take bath.

I Can undestand you very well.......don' t worry. Everyone have their own personal problem, try to concentrate on things you love and hopefully you will be relaxed. Be stressed will affect your body which obviuosly will affect concieving. So please try your best to forget the problem as of now or try to solve it if it has to be taken care now.

Hope my suggestions will be helpful. Let me know if you need any help. Lots and lots of baby dust on you! And one more thing, i don' t know which GOD you worship.....but you can always depend on him. So please pray and if you have this ritual like tieing money in a yellow cloth wishing for whatever our wish is and then when the wish is granted , take that to a temple and drop them in \" UNDIYAL\" .

Take care!

KR Meghnah replied. Hello sherry,
I know it hurts n feels bad 2 get AF ,but thi doesnt mean that u shd lose hope.U shd try,n surely u' ll suceed..Have faith in God,n surely he will gift u soon..

hmm going in 2 wheelers has nothing 2 do with u getting periods..It was just that this month it wasnt meant 2 be,thats all..But I had thought luking at ur symptoms that ur pregnant..Anyways now take it all in a positive way,n start afresh this month,be STRESS FREE..keep kool,n njoy ur time with ur hubby...n yes,surely cuming month u' ll give us gud news.:-)lotsa baby dust on u...

n regarding tips,hmm Avoid drinking too much of cofee or tea.(Tea still is okie,they say 2 cups of tea is gud).Avoid eating anything which is heat..Start eating fruits daily...Make ur body healthy Prepare ur body for pregnancy...My First TTC month I used 2 eat fruits daily.So U 2 have them daily...Eat a very gud diet.It really helps... n yes be kool,n calm...

lotsa lotsa baby dust on u.
lotsa luv
megs Meghnah replied. Hello KR
Congrats..So thisz gona be ur 2nd pregnancy rite?Anyways Am very happy for u...

take care.
lotsa luv.
megs KR replied. Hey sherry,

Don' t worry about it. I was worried and couldn' t keep myself out of it........but I tried hard to keep myself engaged with something I like to do and it helped. I guess you are a working women .....so I guess you must be busy in day time.....so try to spend the other time by cooking your favourite food and do some art/craft work during weekend........or just watch some program you like or you know jsut go for a walk with your hubby and try to relax. I' m sure it will help. DO you feel any symptoms at all? Share with me and hope you get positive result too!

Love,
KR KR replied. Hey Sherry & babysos,

Good News! There' s a new member in our family! yes.....I' m pregnant and confirmed it today with the Gyn. I couldn' t believe myself. Thank you guys for all your support,love, care and prayers! You will have the same from me and am sure you both will soon get pregnant and blessed with wonderful babies. It' s a surprise to us and everyone too! Will keep in touch and please do keep in touch too. May be we could share a fake email id here and then exchange our real eamil id therafter and be in touch personally! let me know sherry & babysos!

Once again thank you and wishing you both good luck!

With tons of baby dust & love,
KR

KR replied. Dear sherry & babysos,

Thanks for the support and prayers. Hope we all get our wishes granted soon. Am trying not to think, which is extremely difficult......but doing my best. Will keep in touch and you two do the smae too. Take care sherry & babysos.

Lots & lots of baby dust on both of you!

Love,

KR KR replied. Hey Sherry,

Hope you are doing well and have started to take folic acid. Take care and lot' s of aby dust on you! So when are you expecting your periods? keep in touch!

KR KR replied. Hey Babysos,

I really appreciate the way u took the news. Believe me I know how hard it is to be ourselves when things don' t workout the way we expected especially after u have missed your periods so long. Anyway, as Megs said be cool and be positive and thigns will turn out rite. We have also started TTC since this month, so it' s a few days to go for me as my period is due on 28. For my first child I didn' t expect...as we didn' t plan or took any precautions, it just happened and so I was not reading signs and to be frank....... I didn' t know a thing about pregnancy or anything. So now as we know and read a lot about it, we seem to search for the symptoms. Even though I feel like I have few slight symptoms, am not taking it seriuosly.

I really hope everyone gets through this soon! Have faith and also try to divert your attention towards something you like to do. I have took some book from library and started doing some knitting whenver am free. When my daughter is at home am engaged with her. Try going out for a small walk, just window shopping or watch some Tv ........ anything which would keep you occupied.

I need to cool down too, as my period due is nearing am all stressed out & I guess am not getting proper sleep these 2 days.

Lots of baby dust on you and please do keep in touch as we all need eachother to share and comfort. Take care!

KR Sherry replied. Thank you so much for the info.We will try and I will keep you posted.Take care sweetie! babysos replied. Hey Sherry,

My doc mentioned the best time to try is from the 10th day after your period started till the 20th day. So in your case you would be ovulating from 16th/17th to 26th/27th of each month. And after you' ve had intercourse, prop your rear on a pillow or 2 so that you can assist the sperm to move faster to meet the egg. Raising your legs in the air also helps. You could stay in that position for 20 mins. Good luck to you!