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Hi all ladies,
I would like to know if there are any ladies out there who share a fairly good relationship with their inlaws. It would be a refreshing input for a change to know how these girls are lucky to have good inlaws!Anybody would want to share their good feelings for inlaws? S replied. I have always wondered when someone would bring up this topic and today I get a chance to write.

I have very understanding in-laws.Totally non-intrusive yet very helpful.Sometimes, I wish my own mother was so understanding.I have been married for 8 years and the sailing has been good.They don' t live with us but I look forward to every visit of theirs.

I think the key is to give respect and in turn receive respect.

S Lucky replied. Really heartening to hear some good stories. I feel it is more on the part of the inlaws how they accomodate their DIL s into their family. If they accept them whole heartedly, then we DILs are always willing to give them our love, care and due respect too. So it becomes a win-win situation for all, and also our husbands are at peace. I really hope that the mentality of these MILs change over the years so that there are less DILs who are tortured.Dia, I feel that you too are lucky, there is no reason for you to feel insecure, just be with your family as you r doing now, and nobody will go against you.In fact you r very lucky that ur SIL says frankly that you r so nice and feels lucky to have you. You should be proud of yourself!! Keep it up! dia replied. I dont know whwther I come to this catagory but except my dissatisfaction in some terms, I dont have any sour experiences. except my own insecurity.
I have friendly and peaceful relation with them. Evem before logging in here, I dialed them and spoke to my mil for an half an hour, just general things (chatting). even they feel lucky for having me and in recent function in my sil' s home ,my sil said infront of her parents that she is lucky that they found me for her brother,also said,I' m very nice to all of them and pay lots of attension. (yes, occationally I buy dresses for her kids and accessories for her in my vacation just to please them )

But last year when we came on vacation they created some scene against my parents but now even behaving good with my parents too. donno y they changed.

They cant imagine i enter this board and pour out my insecurity feelings(see my reply for saheli' s post in joint family section).

If only relation is concerned , I' m happy that they never say a word against me and behave softly.

But coming to my hubby , he is mama' s boy and he love his family most , so I have insecurity feeling he might not be loving same. Also I dislike their family practices and thier attitude towards my fil' s side realatives,they dont have good terms with my fil' s mom because she shared properties half portion to her daughters. so they made my fil hate his mom.but my mil also do the same thing like that old lady. Not even half, she already gave many lakhs and gold to her daughhter , and expect her son to. So if she do the same injustice to their loving son (my hubby) as a dil I' m never questionng this practice which they hated that old lady for.

As I' m not seeming to be caring all these issues our relation is nice. As I told on this board previously, If I think greedy like them, definitly it takes no time to sour our relation.

Now Pl anyone tell me whther I come to these lucky girls catagory or not?!
to conclude with...their behaviour is ' the best' with me...but not their attitude.I just afraid whether one day my smart mil make them hate me too as she acheived it with her mil.(fil' s mom).


nice to hear from u girls, Atleast some of us r lucky enough to have good inlaws.


Priya replied. I would call my relationship with my inlaws peaceful and friendly !
They donot live with us but come for few days stays every now and then ...

To keep things smooth , I remind my hubby to call them very often(every other day) and enquire abt health and happenings ! Like every ILs they like to be kept in loop for everything ...So I do that by either me or hubby telling them abt our son .. his school and hobbies etc ... So this keeps them peaceful!

Hubby on his part is smart person (I call him that way) .. Once a while if I complain abt his Mom .. he is quick enough to say \" Oh .. did she say that .. thats not fair \" but never mentions it to his Mom .. and if his mom ever says something abt me ..he listens to her as well and says \" Hmm .. relax mom .. dont take tension \" That way he never takes obvious sides and maintains peace and harmony ! :)

Priya
Yes replied. My inlaws are good...they are quite old and depend on us for their medicine, food preparation, etc.
My mil is very fond of her son...and whatever he does is the greatest thing...and she does not think high of women. So the trick here is...whenever I want something in my way(for eg, buying provisions, vegetables or way of cooking, etc), I say that hubby wanted it this way...though I told him its not nice...he is insisting on this. Then mil says her son is right. She doesn' t cross-verify! Fil doesn' t interfere in anything...nice person.
And yes, some places we need to compromise and think that they are older and experienced and definitely think of our good and simply ignore small things. riya replied. Hello

I am fortunate to have good inlaws actually there are very old FIL 75 yrs and MIL 65 yrs . I have got i trick to keep MIL and FIL happy.

My MIL is always appreciating his son that sometimes i get bored listening to the same. then either i change the topic or just nod my head and smile.

Just leave them let them do what they want . riya replied. Hello

I am fortunate to have good inlaws actually there are very old FIL 75 yrs and MIL 65 yrs . I have got i trick to keep MIL and FIL happy.

My MIL is always appreciating his son that sometimes i get bored listening to the same. then either i change the topic or just nod my head and smile.

Just leave them let them do what they want .