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Dear Frineds,
I have a very strange problem.Prior to my marriage i always dreamt of going and settling down in US or Europe,This was my first and last that i dreamt always.To my badluck i got a got s guy from gulf .My hubby is too good but I alwyas keep dreaming of US or Europe countries.And whenever i hear my relatives or friends moving to US i feel very low and keep curising myself being landed in gulf,and due to this my marriage life is also getting little bit affected.I always keep pestering my hubby to serach for some other job but he says its not that easy then we end up in fighting.I just cant come out of it.
Friend i just need to know anyone had a similar experince and also anoyone let me know is there are any good agents who can help us to get a better job.MY HUBBY IS VERY GOOD AND NO SINGLE COMMENT TO SAY but i always hated gulf. Wellwisher replied. Hi SP,

To a certain extent I would say i was like you. Since i had lived in the gulf and also my parents lived there i loved that life. When i got married i wanted my husband to tk up a job in the gulf or anyplace outside India. we also staye din the gulf but returened back to india since my husband did not like his job. now we are in US. believe me it sucks. I have no friends or family here. no one to talk to. My daughter has no friends. she is at home all the time since the weather does not permit us to go out on walks or strolls. Commuting is the biggest problem if u dont drive. And its not easy to save money either. so I would really request you to stop thinking abt moving to the US. If your husband is happy with his job there, be happy.

I am telling you out of my own personal experiences. how i wish that my friends and family would be closer to me. I could visit India more frequently. Be there for my family whenever they needed me. we are just waiting to go back when we finish paying off some loans that we had taken for education.

I hope i could help you. When i read your mail i was reminded of my situation 7 yrs back. Pls take care.

Rgds. Krushna replied. Dear SP,
You have married ur husband knowing that he is working in Gulf. Had you discussed this USA iddue to hi before marriage? If no, then you have accepted him wherever he is stationed . He hasnt promised you that he will ever move to USA. So it is not a right thing to fight with him on that issue. As for your fantasy, grow up! Imagine how life in India is and how better off you are. I live in the USA and I feel that life in Gulf is best of both , India and USA. It is also much closer to India, so you could visit your parents and relatives so often.You r lucky, be happy!BTW do you have to wear the burkha there? vinay replied. life is gulf is as beautiful as anywhere. i quite do not understand yr fantacy? please do not trouble him like this you will loose both yr happiness and husband. gulf is so secure that you will regret going elsewhere and think abt money/ simi replied. Hi Sanjana

Let me give u a diiffrent perspective. Whatever u r saying , i can understand but trust me its just fantacies of childhood. If you have a good husband then cherish your married life irrespective of any place or any other thing ...I have been in USA for years... But never felt anythng special abt it .YOU are already in Gulf which is also very beautiful. Why dont you enjoy these moments of life with hubby ? COME OUT OF FANTACY DEAR .
I just cant believe that you end up in fighting with hubby on these tiny non issues.
\" Har kisi ko duniya main mukaamal jaha nahi milta ..kahi zami ..kahi aasmaa nahi milta ....\"

Well ..i will pray from God to make ur fantacy true and make u land up in place where u desired..Good Luck Sanjana replied. Hi SP,
What kind of work your hubby does?.I live in USA .I have never been to gulf, but i heard life is good in dubai.and how is the salary there?and expenses?.Believe me other' s lawn always looks green.it is possible to save money here if both work.