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i got my 1.2 year old baby pierced her ears when she was 11 months old ...it was very painful for me.The rings were fixed by the goldswmith himself. but they were thick,and the edge used to get entangled to the fabric threads when the baby used to roll or while wearing sweater etc.
it happened for 1 ear then i got it fixed ..the baby gets frightened when it get stuck..and she cries..this time it happened for the ear and blood also came from ears...so got b0th the ear ring cut from the goldsmith. i was against ear piercing, but my MIL wanted .
now i want to keep very thin rings on her ears.will the holes get closed after removal of the rings in 48 hours. will it be painful for her..
my MIL is angry..because i got the rings cut. how to convince that i dont want my baby to suffer like ..but she feels hurt.
very anxieous and worried...please suggest.. deepa replied. hi all,

thank you all for ur replies..
i have put thin neem stem in her ears.
good that the both the ear healed .
i will try some small earings later.
i will keep increasing the thinkness of the stem often so the hole becomes bigger.
i am happy that i need not get her ear peirced again.
thanks for your advice.

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Rashmi replied. have u tried ear studs instead...why does it need to be rings.

Also...do what u feel comfy wiyh u' r daughter...u' r mil will just have to deal with it.

All the best!! Ritika replied. Your 1yr old baby cannot protect herself. She needs YOU to protect her.

If her ears are hurting and blood is coming out, then I would never get the piercing done again so soon.

I still remember my ears being pierced when I was 5..and how infected it had become after some time and how it hurt like hell...I can only imagine how much it would hurt a little baby...

Your MIL will get over her little wish...she is not your child' s mother, YOU ARE! If you do not protect your child from pain, then who will?

Your husband seems very in-sensitive to his child' s needs. Respecting his mother' s small wishes are fine AS LONG AS they do not impact a little baby. When they do, I think these \" little\" wishes should take a back seat...

Your baby is not there to pamper your MIL' s ego.

Also, please do not think like \" I do not want the whole process to go waste\" ..if the whole process is resulting in pain for your little one, isnt it worth it to wait for her to get a little older and then try it?

What ever you decide, please think for your baby first and her pain and then anybody else. Deepak replied. your husband is right......... so are you........

Take care, live life with love... Deepak replied. Hey Deepa,

Do not worry on this at all. Let me tell you a few things.

Yes, when the wound is yet to heal and the ring is taken away, the hole may start closing even in few hours time, after 48 hours if you are trying, its almost piercing a hole through a wounded part! Do not even do so to that little small thing!

Piercing a hole actually may well be left to your daughter when she grows old! We failed through almost a similar experience as yours when my baby was small. She herself got ear pierced with a close relative as company, when she was about 5/6. Later in her teens one fine day she landed up home with a second set of holes in her ear! We just watched in awe!

Talk to your husband and take him into confidence to leave it to the choice of a new age girl and not to hurt a cute little 14 month baby.

Nurse her ear well, let not an infection develop. Take care, cheers and post again.