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2007-02-22

Name: Aarti On asking my husband the messages were official and the MMS clip was forwarded one,he swears he will not do it again,i should have trust on him.iam still confused should i ignore ,am i exaggerating

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2007-02-25

Name: S
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Give him the benefit of doubt

Since he says the mms was forwarded.. I think at this point you should give him some leeway. His actions don' t necessarily mean he was emotionally cheating on you.. it could have been harmless voyeurism.

2007-02-23

Name: ABC
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just to clarify

I' m not the ABC of a few topics before...

2007-02-22

Name: ABC
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For Mr Vinay

You seem to have a major chip on your shoulder about your wife and you are looking at everybody else through that filter.

Trust is not like aloo pyaz that you can buy easily..it has to be BUILT... once it is gone, it takes a lot to repair it..

You seem to treat your wife like a commodity (or at least think that that is what wives are for)..If you do not have a happy married life, please do not put the entire blame on your wife..have you tried to do anything from YOUR side to repair this relationship?

Could it be that just because you bring home the dough, you expect that she will be very obedient and do seva for you...all women need romance in their lives...Ask yourself how much romance you have provided in the last 1 year to her.

How many times have you taken her out on a date?

How many times have you bought her flowers?

How many times have you cooked her dinner?

And last but not the least, how many times have you listened to her and asked her about how her day was?

Marriage is a relationship that needs constant nurturing...from BOTH sides...blaming \" you wives\" is not going to resolve anything..

2007-02-24

Name: vinay
Subject:

expected

i expected this kind of comments.
i was quoating my case only to educate her about the male view to her.
it is unfair to comment without knowing the background abt me.
i have a 15 year marriage and is still going on.
i have done all that is mentioned by you and much more to keep marriage going.
till today my wife has no iota of what i am feeling inside me. she thinks we have a very succesful marriage and caries on her life pelasantly.
what ia am suffering inside is due to the same attitude as this girl called aarti, and i also like her husband expleain her everything and keep quiet after that. there is no cure for suspecion. but it ruins yr inner peace.
that is why i am cautioning aarti to be reasonable and trust him.
trust will open him if anything is wrong and not the suspecion.
ask him honestly , question him abt yr doubts positively and then be at peace.
if he is like she thinks, he will repeat it then you can confront him.
so please understand i am not using my case as a filter i had put my case on the board and almost everyone advised me to take care of my wife only handful of them understood what i am going thru so i left it at that.
but when i saw one more wife on the same track i could not keep quiet but many people like you have not liked it so i will leave it for aarti to decide the course she wants to take.

2007-02-22

Name: BBB
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Well said ABC

Well said ABC for VINAY!!
I would like to add couple of points to whatever ABC has said to VINAY.
In case if your wife does samething, will you trust your wife??
It looks like, if your wife does according to your wish, then everything is fine in life else you will kick her out. What a shame on you that you are not able to understand your wife´ s feelings and you are trying to use her.

2007-02-22

Name: ABC
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Re:

Hi Aarti,

I guess its time to move on...if he says that he is not going to do it again, then the best thing would be to give him the benefit of doubt and take him at his word.

You' ve been with him for 10 yrs, so you would be having some idea about how trust worthy he is...If you want to have peace of mind, then I suggest, ignore this issue now...since you' ve already confronted him and he says that it was a forwarded MMS. He' s been warned and next time hopefully he will not do such a thing again...

All the best and I hope your husband and you get back the trust that you had before...

2007-02-23

Name: Priya
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Dear Aarti,
You are right in feeling that way but he too has clarified the matter from his side. So I suggest you trust him ! Its not so bad seeing some fwded mms ..
My strong suggesstion :
Pls " donot" get into the habit of checking his cell and smses.On one side you will start reading meanings in to the smses & on other side for every sms you will not have the courage to go and ask for clarification or justification. You will only end up frustated not knowing what to do.
I have done a similar mistake and therefore tell you based on my Exp. Bcoz no person (hubby or us) will like the idea of being spied...So I suggest throw it out of ur mind like the garbage we throw out of our home and lead a peaceful life!
But for sure have a frank talk with ur hubby. Tell him that you love him and have gr8 trust in him and you hope he will never break it !

Take care
Priya

2007-02-23

Name: Aarti
Subject:

thanks

Thanks for the support i got.I will certainly work on it. thanks once again

2007-02-22

Name: vinay
Subject:

trust

priya, why don' t u trust him? he is not afool to take a shot like this and keep in his mobile for all to c. it is forwarded for sure.
and how can it be a girl fm office? how can she work after such a video circulating? have some sense. you do not want to do anything to make yr self interesting and keep on suspecting him. exactly the same way my wife is behaving. she does not have even a mms like this.
this is the way if yiu wives behave u are sure to grag yr husbands away from you. it is all about trust u know.
if you do not care abt his needs at all and just look at him as yr keeper and bread winner only give him liberty to look at things atleast. are you not seeing vulgur english movies, hindi movies? just because u are sure that yr husbands can not get those heroines u are o kay with that. but is it is a film like girl next door u suspect yr husband. shame to u and all yr supporter who said keep watch be alert and all that non sense.

2007-02-22

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Name: Suma
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best of luck

I can understand your feeling. Be normal... As he says this is MMS sent by someone. But be causious in future.... Check his mobile in regular basis when he goes to rest room.
I can understand how difficult it is to be at home all the time and thinking about those stuffs. Do not act too much but at the same time BE ALERT. Behave as if nothing happened, maintain the same relationship you had before. I am not telling you to spy him. BUT BE ALERT, BE SMART and try to know what is going on in his office.
Wish you all the best.
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