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Iam married for 10 yrs now.Throughout my marriage which was a arranged one i remained a doting and caring wife.I looked after all the needs of my husband all through day and night forgetting to look after my self.My husband too looks after me well,the only thing that disturbed me about him was his mood tantrums sometimes he would make me feel like a queen and sometimes as a stranger,anyway i learnt to adapt with that behaviour.My husband works for a reputed international modelling agency.only today he forgot to take his mobile,i was just going thru the messages slowly i found that certain messages were absurd,like only initials were written and the matter was that--tell that girl not to feel bad or you talk to me anyway i browsed further and saw a video clipping of a girl probably someone in his office who took off her blouse and was wearing a bra and she was saying please sir bahut ho gaya,the male voice was not his but i wonder how did he get it in his mobile slowly this girl took off her bra also and the clipping ended thereitself.If someone else had forwarded it to him why did he keep it in his mobile.iam so disturbed since morning that iam not able to do anything.My mind is going haywire.I dont know what should i do ,should i ask him directly?well now when iam writing this mail i got his phone call he is sending someone to pick up his phone because he cannot manage without it.iam terribly dissappointed by his behaviour.pl.friends help me iam very depressed ABC replied. I am worried more about the girl in the clip who seems to be a victim of sexual harrasment...from what you write, it seems she was resisting in taking off her clothes...

She might also not be aware that she was being photographed..or maybe she is being blackmailed into doing whatever she was doing...

To be honest, rather than keep worrying about it, I would confront and ask my husband about it and find out who the girl is and if she is a victim.

After that fight about the ethics of keeping such a clip with him... S replied. First, are you sure it was a girl in his office? Then it might be cause of concern. But if it is some MMS of the day floating around, its no big deal. Most men (and some women) like to take a look at stuff like that, its just voyeurism. Don' t sweat over it. vinay replied. one lesson i learnt is never forget yr mobile at home!!
as someone said this might be a forwarded mail quite likely.
better to ask him rather than get worried may be indirectly.
if he is in ad line these things are common.
and why are u saying whuy man are like this? in todays world no one is saint.
are u taking care that u still look attractive to him? was the girl in the clip far more beautiful? r u sure she works there as even model tells sir sir.
if she is working there then there is a danger that thee is an ema or more than that is going on. that may be the reason for his mood swings.
to me it looks you have too mush domesticity in you which is forcing him to look elsewhere. please bring some romance to yr life. taking care of husbands basic need is not all. he makes you feel like queen sometimes what do u do in return? just some nice meal? not good enough.
my wife is doing the same mistake and in spite of my telling her does not understand so i am not forgetting my mobile at home? and keep photos password protected. give him this hint!!!
please do not ger angry i am giving practical advice. priya replied. Hi ,
Are you sure the girl is from his office or are u assuming ?
Bcoz many a times these clips are just fwded ones ...like the DPS MMS clip or some Mallika sherawat clip. If thats the case nothing much to worry .. all men watch such stuff !!!
Regarding those cryptic msgs .. may be you should watch a lil and then ask him casually when he is in good mood!
No point in keeping such things to urself for very long .. unnecessarily you end up building a mountain out of mole !

Best wishes !
Priya my name replied. Well Aarti,

In the kind of profession your husband is, there is nothing to be shocked about about that clip. It happens and will keep happening. The male voice was of the hero of the sky color film that your husband must have been making. And there is nothing to be surprised about your husband enjoying that girl after the filming is over, after all they have paid her for everything' .

You can sure casually ask him as to what was going on, with the risk of facing his worst tantrums!

And as far as his mood swing goes, he may be a victim of what is known as Bipolar Manic Syndrome, you may have to take him to a psychriatist once, there are many good drugs available these days for a very good management of such problems.