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hi all,
i´ m going through some major confusions in my life which i´ m not able to understand.i was a silent observer of this site all these days.i saw how nicely people help each other in solving their problems.i hope u´ ll all help me too......
i was in love with one of my friend since childhood.from a very young age i loved him & i knew that he loved me too by all his gestures.but unfortunately i didnt have the guts to speak abt it to him & he also never expressed his feelings for me. so i thought he doesnt love me & got married to the person whom my parents found for me. i´ ve always been loyal to my husband & i´ ll always be loyal to him.
now coming to my problem, i just dont get any feelings when i have sex wid my hubby. i dont feel anything when he comes closer to me, touch or kiss me. i´ m married for 3 years. all these years i´ m just pretending that i get aroused by his touch & i´ m enjoying sex, but in reality that has never happened.
the guy whom i used to love, even if he used to come closer to me, sit beside me or just touch my hand by mistake my heart used to beat so fast. my heart used to ache for his touch, to get a hug from him. but same thing is not happng wid my hubby. i can never feel his touch. never enjoyed sex with him. i really like my hubby & care for him a lot. i dont want to hurt him in any way.i dont know why this is happening? i am not able to understand this. could u all plz help me. plz tell me why this is happening with me? plz give a solution to my problem? what shld i do to get closer to my hubby?
even now my heart only aches for a touch from my previous love. i have never done anything outside my marriage. i´ m trying hard to control, but still i´ m not able to forget my 1st love. i need help. plz tell me whats going on wid me & what shld i do to solve this problem? fd replied. hi

well seeing ur problem, i think its all psycological. See u dont love that freind of urs still. U love ur hubby only....but u have set that thing of love deep in ur mind that u feel that was ur first love and must have had lot of dreaming about him,,,,that makes u aroused for ur freind.

But when ur hubby actually gets any physical with u, u dont feel anything . Its ur mind that is playing this game with u. Nothing is wrong with u.

Dont hold ur past and forget this guy and all the things u dreamt about him. Ur hubby is the one u love , so i guess, start day dreaming about him.....its all in mind

And what u say about ur friend is not love but infactuation....so get over it.
All the best