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Hello friends.We live in UK .After marriage when we were coming to uk myhubby said we will keep our jewellery with in in-laws.i was not happy but had no choice.Last time when we asked our jewellery back she made big fuss over it & some of rings were missing.When i mentioned it she cried did big natak which i think i don' t have explain u all understand.i was hurt because i gave the same respect what i gave to my mother but she broke that trust.before this incident she has made many comments which we ignored but was a blow .my husband is a very nice man .he did not say anything because if something happened to them we will feel guilty even if we are right.Then afterwards the relations are not great.She doesn' t leave any oportunity to hurt me if i tell it will not end . i feel sorry that i keep telling this to my husband.this time when we were in my parents house after few days he came back to his parents that time when she was talking about me he got angry he said where did the ring go ? u talk all things about her talk about ur self she shut her mouth.dont feel like calling them .am i wrong? seema replied. aishu u are lucky to have a husband like that. just forget her n be good with ur husband no one can harm u untill ur hubby is by ur side N.Y.C. replied. No...

Your Mother-in-law is the one to blame.

No need to apologize..unless you want too. dd replied. Aishu first of all you shud not have listened to your husband first time and left your jewels with in laws.its better to be bad before than regret later.All in laws do the same. My MIL asked me where do u keep your jewels. I live in US.So i told her i have it with me.Now my mom has it. MY husband is little bit better. if my in laws abuse me he lets me give them back.So if my mil had asked me to give my jewels i would have told no instead of worrying later.
First of all you are lucky your husband supports you. so u have won the battle.Thats the most important thing in marriage. it doesnt matter if in laws are good or bad.i would have been thru hell if my husband supported them especially my sil . She is a evil witch.
Next time your mil asks for jewels dont give it to her. better be bad now than be in tension till your see your jewels next.Moreover its not bank to tell you will get everything back as you gave. she can say i liked that ring so i kept it.i liked the necklace i kept it.After they have kept it you cant do anything.and moreover in laws can be jealous of your jewels and keep it just so that you dont wear it. who knows. list is endless.So be vigilant. talk to your in laws only when they ask for. or very formal talk. I do the same.Once i cconfided my problem with my husband to my in laws they later turned it against me and told my husband it was all my fault and not his. my fil lives in 12th century. for only daughter he is broadminded. thats it i dont tell them anything.Even if we fight here.All the while my fil knew his son was at fault still projected it as my fault.So in laws can be bad at most times. They are nnot our parents.they dont have our good at heart.so you need to be extra careful with them. best of luck. post back. dia replied. be happy that at least u have hubby' s support and he' s not like many other mama boys!
So dont loose urself in thoughts and be urself. suggesstion is to have minimal communication.Dont be too polite or harsh...Just talk some outer things when u have to talk to her..If she say something to u, simply handover phone to hubby. thats it!

Dont worry too much and thank god atleast he is understanding hubby and doesnt support negative talk on u. Past is Past and forget ' bout rings and dont trust her again...