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hi guys
thanks for all the support!! i was really feeling lonely. im doing ok now though i still miss my mom a lot! but ya i do believe she is my guardian angel now. i only wish my inlaws (they have come to visit us) could understand me more...
i really feel bad...the day my mom passed away...i was still in the kitchen and my MIL didnt even ask me once if i needed any help. my friend sent the dinner. the next day i was doing everything from the morning tea to the late night dishwasher. i feel really depressed because of that. this msg is not relevant to the board...but u guys are the only ones with whom i can share everything. do let me know if its wrong to feel bad bcoz of them...
love,
pari. sanjana replied. Dearest Pari....I wish ur ur inlaws cud be a bit more understanding. But thats the way things r sometimes. And one fails to understand other persons behaviour. Anyways dont get upset on their behavior . Im happy to know that u r recovering from the loss.
ya ur mom will always be there with u. What is gone is only her physical presence...but otherwise her soul will be there with u.
Dear pari i sincerly ask u to pray to god . It has tremendous power...as it increases ur own will power.
I will pray for u .and i really hope that 2006 brings in good times andall ur wishes comes true
lots of love and hugs
sanj Sunshine replied. I can totally understand your pain... I think u'r in-laws are being a little insensitive, or perhaps they feel that by doing this around the house u may cope better. We usually have the tendency to think that if we react to any trauma in a specific way, then any other person would also react to trauma in that way. Maybe u'r mil's way of coping would have been to keep as busy as possible, and be alone, and she assumes that that's what u need as well. I think perhaps what u can do is express your need. Perhaps instead of thinking of her as your MIL, u could try approaching her as u would u'r mom or an aunt u are close to.. let others be aware of your needs.
u are in my prayers.. and love, u are right, u'r mom is your guardian angel. even if u cant see her, she's with u. U'll feel her patting your head or giving u a hug when u need her most.
God bless you Pari.. Hope 2006 brings u new beginings and lots of love, hope, faith and prayer.
Much love,
- S