Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Hello all,
I am new to this message board. I joined to talk to people about how they cope with the fact that they are unable to conceive.
I have been trying to get pregnant for 5yrs now and have failed. I am depressed and feel sad when someone says the are having a baby. Am I being a bad person????
DEBBIE TOWNE replied. IKNOW HOW YOU FEEL. AT LEAST YOU MIGHT HAVE A CHANCE. I HAVE A BIRTH DEFECT AND WAS TOLD AT THE AGE OF 18 I CAN NEVER HAVE CHILDREN. I GET MAD AND DEPRESSED, THEN GO ON. I HAVE A LOVING HUSBAND. WE CANNOT AFFORD THE HIGH PRICE OF ADOPTION SO WE ARE CHILDLESS. WE HAVE EACH OTHER AND HE SAY IT IS ENOUGH. IT HURTS WHEN PEOPLE ASK WHEN YOU HAVE CHILDREN OR WHY DONT YOU HAVE ANY. WHATS WRONG WITH YOU. THEN YOU SEE PEOPLE WHO SHOULD NOT HAVE THEM AND THEY DO. THAT HURTS THE MOST. BUT MOST DAYS YOU JUST GO ON AND TRUST THE ONE YOU LOVE THAT HE LOVES YOU ENOUGH FOR IT TO BE ENOUGH. BUT I ALWAYS DREAM.
Sunshine replied. Hi wannabmum,
we're all Wannabe's here :) and we're all in the same kind of pain as you are. We help each other cope. We share our feelings, tears, hopes doubts, joy, sadness, all here. And u'r most welcome to be a part our support group.
We've all been on drugs (medications, not otherwise), tried to lead healthy lives, tried everything under the sun to have a baby! but, we're all here, waiting for God's plans!
And U know what, hopingfortejas a.k.a. prarthna is right, devote yourself in some other manner, be happy, be cheerful, Thank God for everyday of your life. Don't ask for anything, and HE will grant all.
Much love,
-Sunshine
PS: I know how hard it can be not to question God, been tehre done that... But we don't get any answers, till we're meant to get them.
Take care & God bless! hopingfortejas replied. Hi,
i ahve been TTC for almost 2.5 yrs now and i know how u feel ...

i think it is very natural to feel depressed/ even jealous when someone else conceives .. at some point i also started staying away from babies ... but you know i love babies so much .. i decided this is not the right way to react ..

i think we should channel that energy in some other direction .. how abt volunteering in a kindergaten or sponsoring some poor baby .. actually i have started doing that and believe me i really feel good after that ..

Whenever u feel depressed , do post here ..there are so many like u and me here ..

but dont lose hope , when our baby comes, it will be all the more precious because we have struggled so much for it .. :)

-P Karishma replied. hi dear,

Dont worry dear, all the people in this board will relate to one another in some way or the other. Me too married for 5 yrs but no issues as of now. I too feel depressed sometimes, but i try staying Positive.

So Stay Positive and remove the tensions from ur mind. I know its easier said than done!!!! Have u check'd up with ur gynac abt. ur problems?? wat has she/he got to say???

Its a difficult phenomenon to go thru n coping wat with all these pains is even more crucificating. But cant do anything abt it.

Keep praying to God n he will definitely hear ur cry. We all in this board do the same.

In case u wanna explode ur feelings, do write in this board and you will get the much needed support from all wonderful friends that you make thru this site.

Praying for u n assuring you loads and loads of baby dust on u and all of us too!!!

Luv always,

Karishma