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Hi,
I am a happily married girl.
Although there r ups and downs in my life too.
I had miscarriages some time back but have received all the support from my Husband and PILs too. They r very caring and loving people.
Our is a love marriage (its actually love arranged marriage)
Though my husband loves me alot and I can see this in his eyes....there is no passion involved at times when he makes love to me.
He loves me very very much and I too love him alot.
He is a complete workholic and the moment he wakes up in the morning he is in office in his thoughts.
I too was a working professional some time back but due to my health reasons and also want to start a family i have taken a break.
My husband supports me in every aspect of life ...
I am an introvert and he understands me before I myself know what I am thinking.
But for few months we r having a rough patch.
Actually I have been a professional till now and also till i got married.
I just left my job 10 days prior to my wedding and cam to my place.
I use to stay out of city and have never done the household chores completely... I mean carried a complete responsibility of house.
I am a very gud cook and a perfectionist.
However, getting up early in the morning and getting ready before my husband wakes up is a problem .. which he wishes.
We do not have a discipline in our house.
No time of waking up and no time of sleeping.
As he is the dominating factor in the house i don't say a word and thats part of my nature.
He has never abused me but requested me to wake up early and get ready for the day and plan the day.
I am a late riser due to my previous work schedules for 5 years.
Now cud anybody please help me and advise....
I know it doesn't seem a problem but... i m stuck..
I am a lazy person ....to add to it.
Please provide me a proper advise................ pooja replied. Hi,
How are you? Can u manage to get up early now?
i read ur query and all the replies. Even iam similiar in this case.
Iam trying to get up but in vain?
Any tips to me if u hav made it or trying

Thanks,
pooja ash replied. Hire a maid . Your problem will solve.


Regards

Ash yam replied. Same boat as urs, except for 2 things, 1) m still a working person
2) discipline, planning day, clean and tidy house, getting up early ... are my things and he is exactly opposite
I was a lazy person till 2 yrs post marriage (now 7 yrs) but for keeping the house disciplined and tidy, i wasnt lazy.

Anyways

so that i want to say is

U gotta change urself and do what he says. Because it is for ur betterment and bec what he is saying is not wrong.

Secondly, when u hv a baby, u will hv to do it anyways, there is no option. So better get used to it!

U hv such a good hubby and family, and u too seem to b a nice and mature person ... so thoda adjust kar le yaar!

Abt making love ... well i guess there's little we can do. M sailing same boat ... arranged love marriage but find hubby little less romantic in bed ...
its the way men are ...
wo bhi adjust kar le yaar :)

m telling u standing at 7 yrs ... when i look at other hubbies ... i feel mine is so good ... never mind if he is not so romantic ... but its v imp to hv a good friend in hubby.

I hv learnt that if we adjust little for them where they want, they shower love like anything!