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2005-11-29

Name: pari hi!
i m not a regular on this board but i couldnt help responding to ur msg, rupa! y are u giving up hope. its only that which gives us energy to try again month after month... im an old member so ive seen a lot of successful cases on this board, u can ask sunshine. how long have u been trying? i must confess, i too m not very sure if God will ever listen to me...but ten minutes in the temple do make me feel relaxed...
il suggest a book to both of u as i was surprized sunshine didnt know bout luteal phase. its 'a woman doctor's guide to infertility' by Susan Treiser and Robin K.Levinson. before u take objections to the title...let me make it clear that 'infertility' is not to be confused with 'sterility', which means one can not conceive under any circumstances. infertility just means difficulty in getting and staying pregnant. its a very good book and tells a lot bout the courses of treatment to be followed.
il be busy for the next two months. so may not log in.
love and best wishes to both of u,
pari.

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2005-12-01

Name: Rupa
Subject:

Thank u

Thank u girls....thats all i hve strength to say now...i cant control my tears.....

Tke care and god bless

RUps

2005-11-30

Name: hopingfortejas
Subject:

Hi girls ...

Hey,
it really depresses me to read this post, so much of pain, so much of stress , it does make me feel like Rupa ..is there a GOD ....
after all how much should we undergo when there are girls who get pregnant at the drop of the hat .. i do fell happy for girls like those ... but why should it be so overwhelmingly difficult for us ..??

I am sorry .. Rupa and Pari for all the other family emotions you are going through ... hope you have and the GOD you pray in gives you the emotional strnegth to go through sucha difficult phase in your life ...

Anyway as always , the keyword is,

NEVER LOSE HOPE, OUR DAY WILL SOON COME AND AFTER UNDERGOING THIS MUCH THAT BABY FOR WHICH WE HAVE CRIED SO MUCH WILL BE ALL THE MORE PRECIOUS AND ALL THE MORE LOVABLE ...!! :)

2005-11-30

Name: IB
Subject:

HII Pari

hii pari,

i am really sorry to hear about ur mom. i cant fathom what u must be going through.. i will definately include ur mother in my prayers.

well i reall dont think what is happening to all of us is fair. i keep thinking that whatever happens happens for the best. but i just cant reason out what good can come out of us not being able to get pregnant. i just cannot. sometimes i think that why should i pray to god when he is the one who has planned things the way they happen but then again i think\"; do we have any other choice\"; oher than praying to god. all my friends have babies and those who dont are getting pregnant. i should feel really happy for all of them but in the corner of my heart i do feel a litle sad that i am not able to share that news with my near and dear ones. my mom and dad are just wainting to be grandparents and it just makes me feel so bad that i am not able to fulfill their wishes. guess i am just rambling on and on cause i am really depressed today.
anyways pari i wil ldefinately pray for ur mom.. dont know what else to say. take care and be strong

2005-11-29

Name: Rupa
Subject:

Hi Pari

Thank u for ur message and concern...really appreciate it....i cant tell u wht i am going thru..i am only experiencing disasters in my life....i had three deaths in my family in a span of 5 months...first my dads brother,....then dad's father and its my dads mother....i cant tell u how miserable it is to see people hurt and in tears around me.....

And along with all this....my problems....now u tell me where is god....is it not tht we are not praying ....y whts the reason..wht hve we done to deserve this....i am a firm believer in religions and i respect and admire every religion but this situation tht i hve been going thru...is making me hve this negative thought...i am trying not to believe it and stay positive and my prayers are still there..

Sorry if i have hurt anyone in this board by being negative....i just feel so helpless..thats all

anyway i wish each and every one of u all the best.

Love u all

RUpa

2005-11-30

Name: pari
Subject:

for rupa.

im sorry to hear bout the problems u r facing.
im not sure if this can be of any help but ive never seen anyone without any problems. even those who we think to be very happy have a lot of tensions in their life. have u ever told anyone that u are having some issues with ttc? im sure not. here people think im very happy and content with my life..i dont show my problems to everyone.
my mom has cancer in the advanced stages. at most she is going to survive another 6 months. and im actually waiting for her to leave bcoz i cant see her in that much pain...so frail...so weak...I cant go to india again and again...i cant afford it...and my visa has expired so if i leave, i wont be able to come back soon. i recently returned from india. so i can go bak only when her situation really deteriorates bcoz its not possible to go more than once for the time being. how much i wanted her to see her grandchild, how much she wanted it...that doesnt matter now...bcoz im sure she will never be able to see the baby (if i ever have one).
il tell u wot i do...when i get my menses...i just take the day off...dont cook, dont clean..just have tea, listen to music and cry as much as i can...and i read mails on indiaparenting. i try to expell the depression as much as possible. and the next day im back again...cheerful, lively, energetic...that single day, i dont even pick up any calls...no one knows wot im going thru..but it gives me the strength to support my grief...month after month after month...people who have a miscarriage usually conceive soon after that. ive seen the pain of miscarriage and of infertility...and i still dont know if il ever conceive...
but life goes on...how u lead it...depends entirely on u...please dont wait for God to help u, u r not being punished for anything, put it like this...there was a lucky draw...and maybe we were not so lucky as others...chances are things will get better in future...but till then, only we can help ourselves.
love and best wishes,
pari.

2005-11-30

Name: Sunshine
Subject:

Hi Rupa...

Life and death is a beautiful and an essential cycle... In this beauty lies God miracle...
Read this book called "Through Time Into Healing" and "Only Love is Real" and "Many Lives Many Masters" By Dr. Brian Weiss... He is one psychiatrist in the US who through his work and hypnotism has discovered and confirmed the Hindu theory of Karma and reincarnation... There's a lot of beautiful lessons in his book that help you feel stronger and more certain that there is a pattern and a meaning to your existence... Like and Karishma, even I have found that without my child, my life is not worth living for...
But if there wasn't a reason, we would have passed on..Just hold on sweetie, and pray. Not for a baby or a child or u'r granparents just pray for strength and truth and love to guide you.
God is here with us...even though we don't know it.
Much love,
Sunshine

2005-11-30

Name: Sunshine
Subject:

Hi Rupa...

2005-11-29

Name: Karishma
Subject:

Rups

Hi rups,

Am so sorry to hear abt. ur grandmom.

See Sweetie, Gods just trying to put us into worst situation to see if we remember him even in the worst cum worst situation. U have to put ur hard heart out and cry it out loud to him saying that yes i can hold on to all the trying times. I know baby, its hard to say like that when our friends are suffering, but wat to do. We have to try putting our best foot forward.

I am with you thru this hour of grief. God will definitely see us thru when he has put us to this trying times!!!! Believe Me!!

Sometimes even i feel too morose and feel like dying, But something tells me that we are not worth all this tears we have something gr8 to look forward to!! So we hv to just wait for that gr8 time which is soon going to come to our life!!

Possibly it will b your grandmom whose gonna come in ur womb in the form of a beautiful baby!!! Mark my words!!!!!!

Always my luv,

Karish

2005-11-29

Name: Sunshine
Subject:

Hi Pari...

Thanks for being there... I will look out for the book, and I agree with your definition of infertility...

Much love,
Sunshine

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