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Hi All,
Nowadays it is a period in which both men and women share the household work, but since women like me staying at home have more resposibilty at home. i can t also blame my husband for not sharing household work since he has got a 12 hr job. so my query is about how to manage all the work at home.
Before wedding iam not a girl who do all work at home. i was just enjoying all the time. now i realise i should have learnt how to tackle things?
i wake up 6Am but still cant prepare breakfast and lunch before 8 since my husband's job is like that, he has to leave by 8AM.
And also after he leaves i become so tired when i finish cleaning house and washing dishes and iam bored so much bcos of this. iam not able to read books or learn anything.
Can any women at home can suggest something plz?
And also since im in foreign country iam not able to keep maid bcos of high expenses.
Plz suggest housewives. Sandhya replied. Hello sss

Doing all the cooking and the cleaning can be tiring.I am assuming that you don't have kids yet as someone here rightly said that you will keep looking for time after that.

Here are a few tips from me:

1.Try to use as much frozen vegetables in your cooking as possible.Saves time to cook.
2.Try and cook once a day.It should last you for atleast 2 meals.
3. Do small cleaning every day so that nothing piles up later (like after taking a shower,wipe off the counter top with a paper towel and also remover hair from the floor).
4.Do most of the job when you feel most energized and active.At some point,you will feel tired.So, save the reading and other hobbies for that.
5.One more thing, try to accomplish all the shopping and the cleaning jobs in the week.Don't wait for your hubby to come with you,especially for shopping. This way, you can spend the weekend with him rather than doing cleaning.Also, try to take on more responsibilites from him.Do banking,learn dome activities, join a gym etc. You will not have the time to feel bored and you will be making a significant contribution.

Hope this helps.

Sandhya titir replied. Hi sss,
My story is also same,before marr...never done ne thing.now after having my baby I dont get enough time to do the household ac....es.here is some tips....when you are free,rlaxed cut the veg and putin the airtight box& keep refrigerated.you can make masala paste all ingred...tougether or seper..ly,cut onion slice ..or fry masalas till raw smellgone keep refri..you can use it for4-5 days(masala)cut veg one night before.this way you canprepare rice,wheat flour dough &use next day.hope this will help you.And one more thing enjoy every moment this time won't come back.Relax. hi replied. hi dear,
i think u r newly married...initially u will feel that u r not getting enough time to do anything..and sometimes u will feel that u r married only to cook...but once after u have baby u will feel\" i had plenty of time b4 having baby but i hardly get any time to even wash my face\"
so all u have to do iz plan a schedule...u will definietly find time...nothing iz impossible but practise makes perfect.
makje a meal plannaer first...for exmaple u can prepare for brkfast
dosa/sambar---roti/dal----vermicelli smabar----etc
prepare for all these the previous day like prepare sambar or curries ...so the next day u have to preare only the main dish.i will tell my planner

6.30 am wakeup--my brkfast
dosa/breadtoast/vermicelli/uppuma/appam/roti/egg paratha etc
lunch----rice or roti with any curries like sambar/dal/onion/chicken/mutton/veggeies etc
dinner---roti/dosa/paratha etc with some special curries like chicken,fish or mutton

so the previous day i will wake up at 6.30 am take the sambar out of fridge .heatup n prepare dosa..it takes hardly 30 min for me to prepare tea as well as brkfast.so by 7 i will b out of kitchen. my husband goes to take bath n we will have brkfast togethern we will talk for 30 min then he leaves by 8 am.untill then i wunt do any work..let all the vessels b in kitchen sink bcuz a gud n happy talk will refresh our husband n keeps them fresh all the day..if we work work work with dull faces in the eraly morning b4 them..it will cretae bad opinion abt us,..they will get bored.

after he leavesi will read newspapers or whatever n check my mails for 1 hr...by 9 i will eneter kitchen n wash my utensils in sink..n defrose the things needed for lunch n cut veggies n come out by 10

then again read books or watch tv for few min....n vacuum home or lean messups n enter kitcheen by 11 prepare lunch

we will have lunch together..if ur husband takes tiffin frm home then dunt prepare in in the morning..prepare soemthing n keep it in tiffin box itself n keep it in fridge...next day dunt heatup ..give it as it is frm fridge...it will b ready to eat by afternoon.
nap in noon..evening i will go for walk or do something interesting n then prepare dinner n nex day's brkfast ..


zubi replied. hi dear,
I really feel envy of u ...ah living at home as a housewife is my all time dream. Well me too was a very carefree gal bfore marriage never did any house chores as my home was full of maids. i dint even made my morning tea. but destiny is i hav been marr ( 2.5 yrs )in a home( nuclear family ) whr no not a single maid is thr . everything (washing cleaning even brooming the terrace ) is been done by housewives only .and it is pretty big inlaws family. and i m working too.
u just manage time and do the home chores. while watching in the nite only cut and grind watevr u wanna cook tomm breakfast n lunch. i think it is half done ...
u r pretty good tht u wake up at 6am and want yr lunch n brekfast till 8 am..
i tell u it is very sufficient time...
watevr u cook ....just use multiple burners and quick tips (tell me if u wanna know).
it wud be very nice to u if u finish it early by 8 am ..then it wud hardly take 1-2 hours more for all other household works .thn u will be total free to watch TV or Read something ..hav chat wth friends or chill out somewhr
hope this helps,
keep posting
byee