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My son is 3 yrs 8 months. He is v hyperactive and talented. He has a terrific ear for music and sings well. The problem is he is v. aggressive. He has been like this since he was v young. I cant stop him from hurting other kids. He pushes or hits other kids generally those he feels are weaker than him and I feel pretty insulted when parents of these kids come and complain to me about what my son has been doing. I have tried and am still trying to do everything to improve his behaviour. I have succeeded to some extent. But i am extremely worried about him. I have a younger daughter who is 1 yr 10 months younger to him. He used to hurt her also when she was a baby. But now she plays with him and also retorts back so it has considerably reduced with his sister. This is all inspite of the fact that we tried our level best to make him feel secure when his sister was born by playing with him and spending time with him, telling him how much he is important to us and to his sister. I am a full time mom to both my kids. His concentration level is also v. poor. I take him for drawing class thinking that at least for a couple of hours every week he sits down to do some nice colouring and drawing. He does it for about 15 minutes. But even there he has started to break other kid's rulers and snatching their pencils and things. I am really at my wit's end. We are a happy family and me and my husband have a good relationship although we have had a lot of problems earlier and he has seen our fights and scenes. Is his behaviour a result of all that ? Someone please help me with my problem. I would be v. grateful. Thanx Malathi replied. Hi Tony,
I can understand how you must be feeling. Don't worry some kids are very hyperactive. You must try to chanelise his energy in sports activities or activities like aerobics, karate, taekwondo where all his hyper energy is spent and he will calm down. You can also try Yogo.

Good luck,
Malathi