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i rarely come to this board though im a very old member. just logged in to ask if any of u has come across a remedy to the most objectionable question bout ur 'good news'. or questions like when you are planning for a baby etc. etc.
it really really hurts me a lot when people pester me that its time...and in the social group that i move, im the one who has been married the longest time and still doesnt have a baby...all others who still dont have kids have been married for around 1 year. and in every social gathering the same topic comes up...i cant avoid them. should i stop going to these gatherings? hubby says that i should say i want to enjoy more..maybe it works for him because men are not that interfering. but women...if u say that to them they will ask u how long exactly do u wish to enjoy and even if u tell them something...they will keep lecturing u that this is the right time...if u get too old then u wont be able to have a baby..and things like that...its a torture.. As much as i want to ignore all that, its beyond my control to feel hurt..if i had control over how i feel, i would never have been sad in the first place...
i miscarried two years back on diwali...and have not been able to conceive since then...
my hubby doesnt even remember/know why i dont have an affinity for diwali celebrations!!
this is the first time in my life that i resent being a woman!!
rushita replied. hey pari
dont get upset
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RJ hopingfortejas replied. Hi ,
starting with something which hurt me the most in your message , plz dont resent being a woman ,we and not men can undergo this torture every cycle, raising our hopes, seeing them shatter but build ourselves and raise our hopes for the next cycle and all this with all the interfering and comments we need to hear ....

i think it is a bad idea to stop going to gatherings completely, i know how u feel, i am also feeling the same wiht everyone who got married with me expecting or already having a baby ....
but do try to avoid people who just dont seem to understand when u say STOP ... !!

i know all this is easier said than done, but , we have to undergo all this for the bundle of joy , which we will be holding in our hands soon :)

Take care, and do keep posting ...

-P Sunshine replied. Hi Pari... It's been long..
I can totally understand what you mean by the old interfering busy bodies. Been there, I have heard to comments very often for the past 2 years. I know how much it hurts... It's almost as if you want to scream and scream and scream.... And just say leave me alone! You don't know what I'm going through, so don't be so damn judgemental about me.
All I can say Pari is please hang on... HE is with you... suffering every minute too.. But HE knows what's best.. So just hold on.
And I can even understand what u mean about your husband... Men can be very thick. Hey if u like reading then read \";Why Men Don't Listen & Women Can't Read Maps\"; and you'll forgive your man for being just that... A MAN. It's not him, it's his genetic makeup, the \";y\"; choromosome.
But love, just remember the good times, and the good things. strain out the bad, or it strains you...
Take care of yourself. We miss you out here.
With love,
Sunshine bharathi replied. Hi Pari,


Felt sad after reading u'r problem. Don't just bother those people, if u can avoid such people better avaoid as much as possible.
Be hopefule, b'coz u had already conceived once, so u will surely conceive again. Wait for that day
All the best
Bharathi