Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Hi All,

Today i'am 11 DPO. Very much obsessed about pregnancy this month. Though we did not BD at the perfect timing but did good timing. I see flat temperatures no rise, no spotting nothing, no symptoms also. Sometimes i lose hope but most of the time I build this false hope that i will get pregnant this month. I will try to feel false symptoms also. I know that i'am making it myself but still i start dreaming day and night about pregnancy.
God should save us from all these. This is not an easy thing with all dreams built everymonth and when pregnancy test shows -ve, it is devastating.

God please listen to all of us here, what on the earth have we done that we are facing these terrible problems.
If i get -ve this month, i think i will never ever build my dreams nor keep hopes, will get into depression. I say this everymonth but right after ovulation i start all activities again

God please please listen to all our preyers and our sufferings.

Bharathi krsna replied. hi..

saw ur msg; its all too familiar; so easy to say \";relax; take it easy;\"; but so difficult to actually not think about it.

saw this article on the net.

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COPING WITH THE TWO WEEK WAIT (2WW)
Coping with the two week wait during fertility treatment can be difficult, whether you've had embryos put back after IVF (including frozen embryo transfers (FET)), been inseminated (IUI), or stimulated (Clomid/Clomiphene or other drugs). After a big build-up and lots of medical attention all of a sudden you're on your own again, wondering if and desperately hoping it's going to work.

I don't claim to have all the answers, and certainly found that I coped better during some 2ww's than others, but I was asked by someone recently if I had any tips. Here they are:

** Try and adopt a \";zen\"; like approach ... you've done your bit and produced the egg and the fertile environment (your womb lining), now it's up to the sperm to do its work and then the blatocyst/embryo to
do its bit ...

** Visualise yourself being the nurturing environment where it can all happen. I don't recommend visualising anything as time-specific as the embryo implanting etc because - particularly towards the end of the wait - it just leads you to over analyse whether what you're thinking really is happening or whether it's \";all over\"; for that cycle.

** Remind yourself that you're doing this because your doctors believe it has every chance of working - you have every chance of getting pregnant.

** Think about the end goal of being pregnant, having a baby/child etc rather than all that doom and gloom \";oh it'll never happen\"; stuff

** Plan and do nice things ... not necessarily energetic, but maybe watching videos, or seeing good friends - buy yourself some treats (not clothes because then you get into that whole dilemma about how soon you might (or might not) need maternity wear)

** DON'T cruise the internet looking for advice about early pregnancy symptoms - you won't learn anything you don't already know or that isn't on this page, but you will become a completely paranoid android which is no good!

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God bless us all

good luck,
krsna Leo replied. Dear Bharathi,

Hopingfortejas has said all the right things. It is only that God thinks we are special people and is trying to test our faith in Him. Focus ur attention elsewhere and continue trying, u will be surprised to realize u r pregnant one day. I know feeling the symptoms, building false hopes etc do happen....this will lead you to depression if things dont work out in a particular month.
Dont say that u will never ever build dreams nor keep hopes. Infact Hope is the Rope on which life swings. If everything happened according to us then who would pray to God. You are special Bharathi, believe me and u will be blessed with a special child, I am sure. Will pray for you.
Love,
Leo. hopingfortejas replied. Hey,
Chill ... i can see that u r really frustrated with life and yep i can fully associate with that ..all the false symptoms , hope, etc... :)

dont lose hope and remember the same GOD to whom u pray so much will answer your prayers one day ..he will ..believe me :)

And remember , not everything in life comes easy, we have to take it in our stride ...
one person has rightly said :

When something good happens to you, do u ever think ... Why me ??
If not , then why do you think so when something bad happens ?

I know it is easieer said than done, but don't worry, our day will also come ...

Thinking abt good things to happen for you :)

-P